Ways to build self esteem?

Question

I'm a good looking, funny guy with a problem approaching girls.

I'm 19 and would like to know how I can gain the confidence and self esteem I need. Preferably exercises or maybe if there's a book someone can recomend.

Answer 1

Do not worry about self-esteem. Worry mainly about your integrity. Self-esteem will be a reflection of that. (You don't comb the hair in the mirror; right?)

"Seven Habits of Highly Effective People"

Answer 2

lift weights. You'll get strong, see it, feel it. others see it, and you are like "yah me". But there are ways other than excercize. Sounds like you just need some affermations. Try (stupid as it sounds....no one will know buddy, just try it) write on three seperate peices of paper affermations about yourself. One can say "I am what all the girls are looking for", the second could say "I'm a good looking guy, and I can talk to girls easily" and the third could say another thing....tape them around your house. One on the bathroom mirror. One on your bedroom door, and so on. Read them often. There is science behind this.....its not just psychology shamlogy...when you repeat these positive sayings in your head, you create neuropathways in your brain which grow stronger each time you excercize them by saying the affermations. It's called neuroplasticity. Repeating affermations to yourself helps build these neuropathways in your brain, and the more the affermations are used, the more your brain will relay on those neuropathways during thought and behavior. Kind of like when you hear someone always saying "I CANT DO IT", they usually never get whatever they "can't do" done.......Argue for your limitations and sure enough they're yours.

Answer 3

play games that you know can win and youll slowly gain confidence if this doesnt work watch the jerry springer show youll feel better about yourslef immediatly