It's 12pm on Valentine's Day here, and yet again, my husband has neglected to do anything for us. It's not that he's forgotten, he just hasn't bothered. It's the 3rd year in a row this has happened. I usually do something for him, but this year I'm not going to because he won't do anything for me, and I know that he hasn't got anything planned for later on. I don't expect or want much, just some flowers or chocolate, hell even a card will do, just something nice, from the heart. But it's the one day of the year that I do expect something, no matter what. I'm really upset and feel neglected. I want him to understand how I'm feeling, but I don't know what to say. Any suggestions?
2007-02-13 13:16:18 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Dump him. My wife doesnt do anything eitehr but she would prefer I didnt also. She's weird.
2007-02-13 13:18:44 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I sense That this Isn't your Only Trouble...
I am Guessing that He probably Feels Why Bother with Flowers, Chocolate, Cards, Etc.... it doesn't get him anywhere in the End.
that she'll just Moan and Groan about something else. Why pretend to put on a face One day of the year, When The rest of the Year seems hopeless.
I'm a divorcee who went through a lot of these same patterns. I wouldnt do some of these things That are expected of us Guys Just because they are Expected? All we need is to feel that We ARE appreciated and Loved and Believe Me We Will Move Mountains for you.
I always feel that the Best Way to Get Love is to First GIVE Love. Quit Waiting on The Expected and Go do something UNexpected and I bet you will Have MUCH better Results.
Good Luck! I Hope you Find Happiness and Steer away from this Road to ruination.
Take Care
2007-02-13 21:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by D B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, talk to him! I hint things that I want such as flowers or a box of chocolates, but if he doesnt understand let him know how you feel and ask him to just try to do something nice and make the effort. If he really loves you and he knows how much it means to you he will do it. Good Luck & Happy Valentines Day
2007-02-13 21:20:06 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably talk to him about it and get it out in the open, but unfortunately the holiday is not the time to do it. What about your birthday? Christmas? Does he do things then? If he does, then be more forgiving, after all Valentine's Day really is one of the made-up Hallmark holidays. If he neglects you on all other special days, I would really try to express to him that even a small gesture would mean a lot to you.
2007-02-13 21:20:03 · answer #4 · answered by XOXOXOXO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Print this up for him--and for all husbands and wives out there:
Be nice to your spouse; the benefits you receive in return in a kind, loving, attentive significant other will be multiplied immensely! What's a box of chocolates or a bouquet of flowers, a sincere, written compliment (in a card or handwritten note with hearts and flowers on it!) compared to a congenial, loving, do-anything-for-you kind of mate? The cost is small and the benefits are HUGE! Try it. (Besides, chocolate is an aphrodesiac!)
2007-02-13 21:25:50 · answer #5 · answered by Misty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this day really means that much to you- you should tell him! Let him know this is more important than your b-day or anniversary....
My hubby & I have a pact to not get each other anything for Valentine's Day, except affection. The other presents we have learned, are more fun when they are a surprise-- a "just because" gift can make you smile like nothing else....
2007-02-13 21:22:25 · answer #6 · answered by from HJ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Happy Valentine's Day!
2007-02-13 21:19:34 · answer #7 · answered by Max Power 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to tell him in a nice sort of way what it would mean to you if he would make you feel real special on valentine's day.
because you find it so romantic & it would make you feel so loved to get flowers or any little surprise!
you would feel so happy, loved ,adored & appreciated to think that your man would take the time to let you know how much you are loved
word it better than that but the main thing you let him know what you need to be happy
2007-02-13 21:29:49 · answer #8 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much in the romance department? huh? Was it always like this? Has he done things before? I am thinking if this is something new then there is a problem about. If this is not anything new and he is true to form then I am sorry to tell you he is not going to change. Sorry about all the sadness.
2007-02-13 21:28:58 · answer #9 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him do you know it is valentines day on so and so a day. Give them a 3 day warning but it is kind of to late now. That is what I do for my fiance he has a hard time remembering things.
2007-02-13 21:21:15 · answer #10 · answered by Renji 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard to do because we tend to be emotional about a lot of things. I say act like it doesn't bother you, don't even mention the fact that he didn't get you anything. It will bother his conscious and make up for it later.
2007-02-13 21:23:42 · answer #11 · answered by LT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋