It's 12pm on Valentine's Day here, and yet again, my husband has neglected to do anything for us. It's not that he's forgotten, he just hasn't bothered. It's the 3rd year in a row this has happened. I usually do something for him, but this year I'm not going to because he won't do anything for me, and I know that he hasn't got anything planned for later on. I don't expect or want much, just some flowers or chocolate, hell even a card will do, just something nice, from the heart. But it's the one day of the year that I do expect something, no matter what. I'm really upset and feel neglected. I want him to understand how I'm feeling, but I don't know what to say. Any suggestions?
2007-02-13 13:15:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Valentines day is not important. It is materialistic. Your happiness in your relationship should not depend on weather or not your husband spend money on you. Think about all of the little things he does to show you he loves you, everyday of the year.
2007-02-13 13:19:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should just continue on getting something for him even though he doesn't get something for you. It probably gets old after awhile to him that he just looks at it as 'another day'.
Valentines Day is on a week day when there is still work to be done. He may be good at other things, but has it occured to you that maybe he is not good at planning things like this? Not all men are like that, they show love their own way. Everyone is different.
My husband forgets too, but I don't make it a big deal about it. It all has to do with attitude. I just told him like this, "You mean I don't get any flowers, card, or candy?" I say it with humor. But what he gave me instead was a hug and a kiss, and then love in the night! (smile) Sometimes men need a little reminding about things like that, but not the nagging part. Women are the 'multi-taskers' while men are the 'focus on one thing' kind of guy. We need to help him in that area, that's why I keep a calendar above his desk and put all the little reminders so he can know what is going on or what is ahead. Just a tip!
Otherwise, let him know how you feel. Or get these three books called, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage", "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands", and "The Five Love Languages". All are really great books for the both of you.
Remember, men don't read our minds.
2007-02-13 21:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
valentines is 4 singles and people having affairs your married and all this smootchy crap stops and replaceit with stress and andlonging 4 some one new and the fact he comes home to you but if you must tell him to do it or next year send yourself some flowers and chocolate with out a card and then say at least some one admires and adores me
2007-02-16 12:35:19 · answer #3 · answered by ariesfunram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes since its been 3 years and you expect to get different results dear seriously SERIOUSLY look at your life and make a soulful choice a pro and CON list and see if its really worth keeping..
Sounds like your man is a real dud and you are worth so much more..
You are a queen and I assure you darling you so deserve to be treated like one!
For every jerk like your husband there are 3 out there ready to adore you!
2007-02-13 21:47:54 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Tom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend his money and treat your self to a valentine's day . go to the show or dinner. order take out or set the table with one place setting. make 1steak and 1potato with a small salad,and a candle just for you. when he asks where is his tell him you are treating yourself to a nice dinner on this special day. tell him maybe next year he might be invited. good luck
2007-02-13 21:40:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have thought that you should maintain the moral high ground and give him something this year. Just a card to say how much you love him. In a few days you might be able to discuss how you are feeling with him, you never know, you might just get through to him
2007-02-13 21:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should talk to him, make him understand that your longing for affection this valentine. You have to tell him what your true feelings are and that youre upset because hes not doing anything special for you.
2007-02-13 21:24:16 · answer #7 · answered by konfuzed_baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have flowers sent to yourself.On the card on the flowers,put from your secret admirer.I guarantee this works.I have had to do this before.It made my husband realize that he was slacking.He also realized that someone else may think I am wonderful!Yes I know myself,but it worked! Goodluck
2007-02-13 21:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by Gin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
happy valentine day now let talk you need to sit down and talk to your husband i tell you the truth we guy dont listen will and we dont her hear will also so go slow you need to tell him want you want and need so this dont happen again i wish i was your husband i poor chocolate all over my body and be your chocolate bunny good luck
2007-02-13 21:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to grow old waiting on him to do something. So YOU do it and just make him do what you plan to do. Take charge and be bold. Maybe your enthusiasm will help him "catch the fire."
2007-02-13 21:27:02 · answer #10 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋