what do you think about a married couple who love each other very much but sleep in separate bedrooms?

Question

we've been married for years, and everything is good but we are more comfortable in our own beds. I like to read or watch late night t.v. so I have my own room. He has his military stuff, etc. in his room.

Answer 1

I think that you sound like two people who not only love one another, but are also completely secure with one another and honest enough to tell the other that sleep is important.

However, the fact that you are asking this question is a concern. Do you miss him at night? Does he miss you? What is it that really keeps you two apart at night? Perhaps allowing yourself to wonder about the situation first could help you find out what you're missing. Beware of playing the blame game though, you're husband probably has NO CLUE about your doubts, as you yourself said, "we've been married for years, and ..." That is what he thinks. It's not fair to change things after many years. Be diplomatic and respectful if you decide to ruffle feathers. No pun intended.

Good luck

Answer 2

It depends on the couple and what is best for them, so it is hard to say. Having separate bedrooms could decrease intimacy, which would be bad for a relationship, but I suppose it could lead to a longing for each other as well. There are also times it might be better for sleeping, where one person in the couple snores or one goes to bed later than the other and would otherwise wake them up. So it's hard to say one way or another in general--it depends entirely on the couple.

Answer 3

Thats sweet! My mom and dad sleep in seperate rooms. My dad likes sleeping on his rattan mat in the room that has AC because he sweats a lot and thinks its healthy for his back and my mom prefers to sleep underneath her blanket on the bed cos she can't stand the cold. In the evenings, they like to chat in bed after my dad comes home from work.

Love is all about understanding each other, I guess.

Answer 4

What ever works. Sometimes One of us sleep in the living room just because the other has something on tv or I have the fireplace lit. Not mad just what seems to work for us. If this works for the two of you then fine. Just keep check that both of you are really happy.

Answer 5

Like others have said....hey if it works for you guys....then great. Like the old sayin....ifin it ain't broke....don't fix it. Just like every person is different so are couples....so what works for one couple may not work for another. If you BOTH are happy with this sleeping arrangement then that's fine. Myself....I have a hard time sleeping if my wife is not in bed with me....but then again thats just us.

Answer 6

It's a great arrangement! That way, both are happy and comfortable. Just dont stop the love-making part of the marriage ;-)

Answer 7

Well, I guess you never have to worry about someone stealing the covers that way. I guess.. if it works for you and no one is feeling neglected it's ok. I wouldn't prefer it. I like to feel my man right next to me.. plus I like to feel like he is protecting me.. plus I love when he rolls over and grabs me... and morning business is always a nice wake up call. But... everyone is different. I wouldn't want my man in another room, but that's just me.

Answer 8

that is not as strange as it seems all my brothers and their wives have a similar arrangement and for the same reasons as you suggest. I know from the nieces and nephews that I have there is nothing wrong with any of the relationships

Answer 9

my great-grandma and my great-grandfather used to have separate bedrooms and loved each other very much. the only reason they slept apart was because of his snoring and passing gas at night.

Answer 10

As long as there is no negative reason it is ok. It seems to me that it would add to the suspense.Now,if there is something wrong in your marriage then that needs to be fixed.