why cant i be excited for valentines?im attached?

Question

this is our 4th valentines and not once have we spent it alone as he always has his mates involved(hes is 32 now)and it does my nut!i used to love this day but he has ruined it for me and now tomorrow,i dont care. i know it is all commercialised but it is still nice for us wives/mums to be thought of and appreciated and loved. so why has he got his kids(other mum) to stay at ours so his ex can have a nice nite(again)?am i missing summat?

Answer 1

I agree with what you said. I have one mate who married leaving three of us unattached: He has a wonderful wife but is a right git when it comes to holidays.
I talked to him today and it came out he had no plans AT ALL. I told him if I were a woman and married to him, after a Valentine's not done up at least a little special... I would get in trouble if I wrote down exactly what I said, but it was not nice.
I am sorry your's is similar, but I know it really is the love that two people share year round that counts, but bloody hell, I can't believe my mate!
--That Cheeky Lad

Answer 2

Its easy to say you dont care, of course you do or you wouldnt be talking about it. Yes, to some point Valentines day can be too big of a deal, but at the same time, a few hours, one day a year to spend some nice time with the one you love isnt asking too much. When you are involved with a man who has kids with another woman, thats a another issue because he is a package deal. So you can make the best out of the situation, have a nice dinner with you and the kids, make it a fun time for everyone, and when they go to bed try to do something special with your man. And yes the kids will tell their mom what a nice Valentines day they had at your house too :) Its about spending quality time together with the one you love.

Answer 3

i think you have in part given the answer yourself.
its still nice for us wives/mums to be thought of appreciated and loved. he is doing that but he is thinking spread the love a little wider then most men might.
this might also be his day of feeling guilty about his not being with he ex wife and he may just want to demonstrate that he wishes he was much more kind to her when he was with her.
i think that you might want to take this year as it is but next year no way. you plan valentines day and you make it clear repeatedly that you are planning next years v day and he needs to be prepared for your plans not his.
next year do for him what you want him to do for you .
he might be better to give his ex wife mothers day as one day of a break and who knows maybe there anniversary as another if she still is alone .
in the mean time do keep this in check as the build up for v day is much more then it should be . i dont think many know what saint valentine did or how he died.

Answer 4

Hi Charlene. You need to sit down with your beau and have a heart to heart. Let him know how you feel and tell him straight out that you don't want to look after his exs kids so she can have a good time. This guy may well love you but he obviously doesn't respect you. I think he has his priorities wrong.

Answer 5

He's got to make it up to you. Rip off his clothes and then explain to him how and when he is going to do it.

I believe he is still trying to make it up to the other chickie for his lack of romance with her. Hey. Now he has another chance. You. Be a sweet step-mom tomorrow, O.K.? But leave wicked little clues all along that after it's over (and the kiddies go home, for God's sake) his body is yours. His wallet. His...

Answer 6

Talk to him hunni, maybe he feels that valentines day isn't important, and let him know you wanna celebrate it, thing linette of desperate house wives.... WHO COMES FIRST

Answer 7

i think blokes should take partner to nice resturant, candle light and stuff, nice wine and gaze lovingly into eyes.

i know,tell him to pi55 off an come round my place!!!!!

xxx

Answer 8

the answer is in your question, the word "attached"!