I was discussing this with my wife. I invest a lot of money in my business that produces income for us. I pay all bills and give my wife spending money. She is finishing up grad school and has several job prospects. She says that there is a power inbalance dur to money. I would trust her with my life but not my check book. Help me understand..What is fair?
2007-02-13 12:26:54 · 7 answers · asked by corporatetrade 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just wanted to add that our spending habits are very different. I feel that I am value oriented and she is not. I told her that she would not need to contribute to the household and was free to spend her income the way she sees fit.
2007-02-13 12:33:35 · update #1
50/50 is fare
2007-02-13 12:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is fair is the budget you both agree to. There is no tit for tat your spouse is your best friend. Perhaps some one may be needed to mentor you at first?
2007-02-13 12:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats fair is to have a joint account and the two of you work out a budget and stick to it. This way you both know where all the money is going and it doesn't seem so much like you are in control of everything.
2007-02-13 12:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by HereIAm 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and agree on how you want to do the bills and the money. Take into accout how much each make and overtime etc. Then just stick to it. I know people that boths traight time go into the joint accout for house stuff and the overtime is eachs play money. Me and the wife all goes in together and I just tell her what I want and she lets me know if we can afford it. she also okays purchases with me before she makes bigger purchases. What ever works for the two of you.
2007-02-13 12:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, soon she will have her own money , why not let her keep it? also maybe you can split some bills so, she will be responsable for some bills, and you for others??
Don't take her money, help each other with investement ideas, and also invest together.
I wish my husband done this
2007-02-13 12:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by Nikita . 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't trust anything that bleeds for 5 days and doesn't die.Especially with your life or check book.
2007-02-13 12:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by Troy 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She feels inferior because of the dependance on you for money, thus why she said that. You need to make her apart of your finances and not make her feel like she has to beg you for what she gets.
2007-02-13 12:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋