We are all students studying overseas.
Look,
I love her, and she loves another man(i found it disgusting to me), however, she is not having a happy relationship with him, and they are like "trial separate" at the moment. Recently because she hates the people whom she and her bf are sharing the house with, she called me secretly and told me to find a house and want to live with me. I agreed and found such a house and half a month passed. we kissed, hugged but didn't go as far as sex, while she still insist I and her are *good friends*, even though we did stuff like that. She sent him msg, waited for his calls, sent him a V-card, and showed much much love for him. What should I do? I am deciding to transfer to a better univerisity and I have to make a choice between the confusing relationship and my future.
Many thanks to your answers.
2007-02-13 12:26:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Note this is not a marriage problem, sorry but I think people in this category could know more about my situation. Thanks again.
2007-02-13 12:29:05 · update #1
Well personally I would pick my future in this case over someone who has already been a Ex. If you where already finished your schooling and were on your way in your career...then I would say why not give it a try....but right now you have to do whats BEST for YOU....and that's your schooling....and you don't need any extra pressure right now. Atleast you are thinking about this BEFORE doing anything......Best of luck.
2007-02-13 12:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun...sorry to tell you thins but it sounds like she is using you....
yes you probably are really good friends, but it sounds like she is not ready to be committed to you or anyone for that matter.
She was in a hard situation and she saw you as her way out. i think the reson she has not told you that she is not interested in a committment with you is because she does not want to lose your friendship or your support...
Sit down with her, be honest..command her honesty and lay it all out there...it might hurt a bit, but youll be better for it....
pick your future...if she does love you or comes to love you...she will make the effort to find you and be there with you....relationships can come and go anfd the possibilties are endless, but your future and education is priceless.....
Good Luck
2007-02-13 20:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by Berge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let go of the confusing relationship and i know it is cause I have been there and done that myself, go for your future it is the wise choice and in your best interest, this woman friend of yours is just using you to make the other guy treat her better as she seems to want to make him jealous, so be a good friend and let her sort her own mess out without helping herself to your finances
2007-02-13 22:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by billc4u 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is still focused on him, if all u are is just good friends what is in it for u? if she isn't finished with him, why do u set yourself up for heartache hoping she will choose u. this is just a relationship that will get u no where. focus on your future and your studies, this woman is clearly in love with someone else.
2007-02-13 20:35:13 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that she is so self centered.You know in your heart that your future is more important.She only seems to care about herself.I think its time you started caring about yourself! Good luck
2007-02-13 21:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by Gin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋