Tips on keeping eye contact?

Question

I know how important keeping eye contact is during interviews, but I have a hard time doing it. My social phobia is the problem, so I was wondering if any other people w/ SF had any tips to help stop all the anxious feelings. I have to be interviewed next week as a part of the application process for the NCSSM (a difficult-to-get-into highschool). Thanks for any help.

Answer 1

try looking at the forehead, just to let you get use to it, they would think you are having eye contact, then eventully look in their eyes.

Answer 2

At the health food store there's a wonderful product called Bach Flower Essences Rescue Remedy. You just put two sprays on your tongue as often as you feel you need help to feel calm during times of anxiety.

Also, remember, it's okay to look away. Constant eye contact can be as uncomfortable as when people have trouble giving eye contact. It is natural and humble to look away when you're thinking, look down when you're tooting your horn, etc. Just remember to keep going back to the eyes. Always keep your eyes on theirs when they're speaking, and when beginning your answer. That's good enough for your age. Smile several times throughout the interview. You'll do fine. Good luck!

Tabulator said DON"T LOOK DOWN...it can come off as a little insecure, but it can also come off as humble and endearing, especially if you make a good impression in all other ways. So if you happen to look down, don't feel like you made some big mistake. Not so.

Answer 3

I used to be them same way, but somewhere after i joined the military and getting out of the military it must have hit me. I love to look people in the eyes, sometimes when they are talking, i lookat thier eyes and wonder what they are like, or i see thier eyes and think something funny it always makes me smile and feel completely at ease, for some reason, i havent really worried too much about it since i was a teenager

Answer 4

I have that too; it is like being introverted. Don't worry about it. Keep eye contact but don't over do it. If find it is easier to keep eye contact when the other person it talking. So I look at them when they talk (it makes them think you are paying attention too). Then when you are talking, keep eye contact as much as comfortable. Don't over do it - you can go too far in the other direction.

Answer 5

You don't have to maintain eye contact 100% of the time.

Try to do it ESPECIALLY when they are SPEAKING to you and, then, take a quick :"break" by glancing at the ceiling "in thought" if they ask a particularly interesting question.

Make sure you smile and DON"T LOOK DOWN!

Avoid staring in one spot too long. You're feet will still be therre when you are ready to leave.

Answer 6

Instead of thinking about eye contact, think about their eyes, physically. Keep looking and see if you can tell what color they are, if they have long or short lashes, gold specks in the middle, etc.
If you are serious about it, and keep trying to see their eyes, maybe if you can see your reflection in them, it is SOOO much less personal, and they will be impressed with your eye contact!

Answer 7

spend some time at a mall, and try and maintain eye contact as long as you can without freakin people out, especially women. most people will loose eye contact first when they realize you are lookin at them. and as you do it longer you will be able to maintain it for longer, happy hunting

Answer 8

kind of glance around, dont stare directly into there eyes. scan the persons face, look around a little, the chin nose and back on the eyes. nod and smile.

Answer 9

try practising. look of their eyes for quite and then look at their forehead and again on the eyes. its troublesome, yet to get a woman quicker or later ull ought to hit upon a thanks to maintain eye contact.