I am opting for my man, my mom, and maybe my best friend, as I want a doula or midwife as well... I feel that the more people the more trouble I will have, more irritated, and unable to focus.
My boyfriend and I just talked about this for the first time tonight.... I feel its my crotch the world is going to be looking at so I should have a heavier say. Sorry, but is this rude? Or am I thinking ahead and for myself.
2007-02-13 12:23:31 · 9 answers · asked by Miss. Persephone 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Definitely healthy. You are exactly right- when I was in labor with my daughter, I had a parade of my mom, his mom, his grandmother, and my fiancee, plus all the doctors and nurses going about their thing. I found it to be just too stressful with so many people in there, the best times were when it was just me and him, or me and my mom, and no one else. It made it easier to focus on what I was doing, and believe me- you are going to need to be able to focus and rest. It's your delivery, you are the one doing all the work, therefore you call all the shots, and it isn't the slightest bit rude. (And don't let anyone else tell you differently!)
2007-02-13 12:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by Robin J. Sky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally healthy. I'm having just my husband and a doula with me. I feel the same way. It's me who will be showing everything, so it's up to me who is with me. I even stated in my pre-admit forms (and I will remind the nurses) that residents, students, and interns are to stay out of my room at all times. I don't want them standing around just watching.
2007-02-13 16:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by Courtney B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same with my first two. I had only my mom, my husband, and the hospital staff. With my last, I felt comfortable enough with the process (I knew exactly what to expect) and with my body (it's totally different during labor) that I had my mom, my husband, my sister in law, and my mother and father in law (I would've had my father, too, but someone had to babysit the other two). It was a decision I made after already going through it two times, though. You should be totally in charge when it's your birth. I don't think it's rude to plan ahead for what you're comfortable with.
2007-02-13 12:49:06 · answer #3 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I opted for minimal. My mom, my husband and the doctors were there. It was nice, because there was not alot of static. I would not like to have seen what it would have been like if everyone I knew was giving me instructions and looking at my crotch the whole time.
2007-02-13 12:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by Meredith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree completely! You are going through the labour - you are splayed on the delivery table, therefore it is YOUR decision.
I am having my Mom and my fiance and thats it. He is fine with that... but even if he wasn't TOO BAD since i'm the one pushing out the baby!!! LOL
2007-02-13 12:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by Smiley One 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is simple to answer
your going to be in alot of pain you will not alot of people there asking you questions. Keep it simple your husband (or a close friend) and the doctors and nurses thats all you ll need
2007-02-13 12:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by pre med student 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's more than I had, but less that other people I know. You're right though, you're the one on display.
2007-02-13 12:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my husband and the nurse, and I didn't want anyone else there. It's definitely your choice.
2007-02-13 12:31:06 · answer #8 · answered by Lepke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa, thats alot of people in the delivery room. it'll only be me and my husband there.
2007-02-13 12:38:07 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋