My girlfriend broke up with me two weeks ago, and we decided to stay friends. we hung out a few days ago and everything was fine, but now i feel like complete crap. I am totally in love with her and i dont know what to do. She has had multiple brain surgeries and because of that has some baggage, and although she said "there was no spark", i feel that she just is afraid to get into a relaionship with anyone. I havent told her i was in love with her but I cannot help how i feel and do not know what to do. Please help. I know if i tell her it will just make the relationship more awkward. What do i do? I know that if i tell her it will ruin our relationship... how do i tell her if i know that she doesnt feel the same way.. if she did she wouldnt have broken up with me no?
2007-02-13 12:17:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would not tell her, it makes you seem desperate. I would continue to bump into her here and there (NOT all the time...it smacks of stalking!), and be friendly, genuine, and leave the door open.
Act like you just want to be friends. If she sees that the pressure is off, she might warm up again, and stop being so frightened. If she's NOT frightened, and she's NOT interested, then you need to back off an nurse your broken heart quietly, because again, you don't want to seem desperate.
Good luck!!
2007-02-13 12:22:35 · answer #1 · answered by sacanda_trina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how she feels, but the thing is if you're really in love with someone I don't believe after two weeks that you can then shut your feelings off and go back to being friends like that. You obviously are being her friend just because you still want to have some contact with her so it's going to suck if she doesn't feel the same way and you're only going to get hurt. I feel like if you want to tell her how you feel then go ahead, but also definitely tell her that you can't be friends with her right away because of those feelings. So tell her you need some space and then do your best to get over her. Then if you want to be her friend later on down the road you won't feel so bad. She might even want to get back with you because she might need space as well.
2007-02-13 20:23:33 · answer #2 · answered by fergalicious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not going to like my answer, but the best thing you can do for yourself, is stay away from her. I know, easier said then done. But if she broke up with you, and she feels like there are no sparks then you must move on. Being around her will only make things worse for you. I know it feels like the end of the world, but you will get over this. Everyone in life gets there heart broken, and right now its your turn. Go out with other friends, and try to meet new girls. Believe me there is someone else out there for you better then her.
2007-02-13 20:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the way I see it, if you are planning on trying to be her friend and while in love with her AND having her be your ex, I don't think that is such a good idea. What you should do it come clean with her, tell her how you feel about her, and then see what her response is. If the response is that no she doesn't feel the same way, then try to see if you can continue to be friends but there again you risk the entire friendship because she could now feel awkward about being around you afterwards.
2007-02-13 20:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by nickhawkins21 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anytime telling someone you love them makes the relationship worse, it's not happening.
If she said there was no spark on her part, it's just not going to happen, move on.
I suggest telling her how you feel, and then leaving the ball in her court. If she responds to you, awsome.
If she rejects you, you need to create a distance from her.
I don't mean never talk to her again or anything, just an occasional, friendly acquaintace you see every so often.
If she is not into you, all you will do is torture yourself trying to be close to her when she is not interested.
2007-02-13 20:26:15 · answer #5 · answered by Mr R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not want to admit to yourself, but you may have to step back for a few days and see where you stand. Regardless of how you may feel about that, do you want to be staying in this "loveless" relationship/friendship with her or move on? And maybe she broke up with you because of her medical condition, or maybe she's trying to concentrate on herself right now and there's no room for emotional ties. If you truly love her, you'll give her time and let her come back to you if it's meant to be, if she doesn't come back, then you will have your answer. Good luck and be well.
2007-02-13 20:26:56 · answer #6 · answered by Cathy VanB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u bring up the old days and she dont change the subject then she might just like u still.Or just didn't here u. If that don't work then tell her how u feal and if she don't say she feals the same way then just say that ur sry and u still can be friends with her.
2007-02-13 20:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude dont just tell her, Grab her hard, press her to the wall and kiss her as passionately as you can. Then Tell her you can't live without her. Words are just words, but actions scream louder than anything. Do it man you deserve it!
2007-02-13 20:25:57 · answer #8 · answered by tony bologna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stay away from her. Maybe the time apart will make her realize she loves you./ Maybe not. Don't torture yourself. Back off from the situation.
2007-02-13 21:08:29 · answer #9 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be true to yourself first...if you love her...you need to tell her that you can't handle this friendship thing...that that isn't where your head is...If you don't tell her...it's going to really suck everytime you are around her...make it or break it.
2007-02-13 20:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋