We have both been married before but don't want to get married again. Is it morally / socially ok to say we are married when we really are not legally? Is it bad luck for him to wear a wedding ring and for me to wear an engagement/wedding ring if not really married? We love each other very much and are very committed to each other.
2007-02-13 12:12:10 · 10 answers · asked by BB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Instead of calling them engagement rings call them devotion rings ,
or eternity,commitment rings etc. I think its sweet and no matter what you don't have to be married to wear rings.It just sounds weird that you would call them engagement rings when you are not intending to get married.
2007-02-13 12:27:26 · answer #1 · answered by ursula k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you want to show the world that you are totally devoted to each other and you see the rings as a way of doing this...
I have a relative who has been with her partner for 16 years and have never been married. At the beginning their reason's not to were for money purposes and then when they could afford it they felt the money was better spent on their child's education. They have matching tats... A ring is a symbol - you decide what that symbol is...
2007-02-14 14:26:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing shows that you are commited to each other like marriage. That is what it is there for. I guess it dont matter too much. But if you live together without being married for a while and you live in a common-law state, you will be married. So why not take the plunge and let your past be the past.
2007-02-13 12:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by sdo3lg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can find another way to show your committment to one another. Regardless of morals, how would you really feel knowing that you're "pretending" to be married when you aren't? Deep down you both know whether your want to or not. If you're both going to wear rings, etc to show your fidelity, then you two really need to talk and confront your fears with marriage. All marriages are different, and that's something that you both need to realize if you're totally committed to one another.
2007-02-13 12:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by Cathy VanB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm told they now sell something called a 'commitment ring'. Brad Pitt wears one. So it must be the cool thing to do.
I wouldn't say you're married if you're not, but you don't have to be married to wear a ring on that finger. A ring on that finger does indicate that you are 'taken', and that's your intent, so go with it.
2007-02-13 16:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like one of you wants the real thing. I don't think there is a problem with this. If you want to take the pressure off when you are apart this will work. I am sure you are going to get some funny looks from friends and family though. They are going to wonder why there is not any real commitment.
2007-02-13 12:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by S x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you want to PRETEND to be married? You want to wear rings so that people will THINK that you're married, but you're really not? How utterly and totally childish.
2007-02-13 12:17:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What ever works for the two of you. If this is your way of saying that this is your exclusive relationship then it is ok. As long as this is what the two of you want. If it makes other around you leave you alone and not aggrivate you about marriage then that is great also. Have fun.
2007-02-13 12:21:41 · answer #8 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not a fashion statement. If you want to give each other jewelry, make it something other than rings.
2007-02-13 14:52:24 · answer #9 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is this thing called common law--and here in tx when you pretend and tell people you are married --guess what- in the eyes of the law ....you are
2007-02-13 12:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋