We've been swingers for several years now, and we've been together for nine years. We got into it as an extension of our already incredible relationship with each other and and incredible sex with each other. We both had fantasies that required more than two people at a time to fulfill and we were (and still are) secure enough in ourselves, in each other, and in our relationship to do it. We've also met many great people in the lifestyle. I'd say that we got into it for the additional erotic sex and then found a whole other aspect to it. The social aspect. We have so many friends that we have a great time with outside the bedroom. These are people that we can be ourselves around without being judged like other do. And, there is always the benefits if we so wish.
There are those that will tell you that swinging almost destroyed their marriage, but dig deeper with them and you'll find that they tried it for the wrong reasons, like to "fix" a relationship on the rocks or to "spice-up" a boring relationship. I think most successful swingers will tell you that they got into it, like we did, as an extension of their already great sex life. Not as a replacement for sex in their relationship, which is what those that have problems do it for.
For some great, objective information about the lifestyle from those that do it as well as those thinking about doing it, please check-out The Swingers Board http://www.swingersboard.com . It's free and there is lots of info in the forums from both veterans and newbies alike.
2007-02-14 03:17:53
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answered by Anonymous
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Been there; done that. No lie.
Definitely not something I'd recommend for everyone, especially those couples whose relationship is not ROCK solid.
Frequent problems that arise include jealousy, performance anxiety and a host of other surprises.
Can you have some great experiences? Oh, yeah!
But, think for a minute...how hard it is to find just TWO people that are compatible...now do the math and figure the odds on FOUR people being compatible.
Given the opportunity, most guys would be willing to stick their willy into most anything new...but what about the woman? Does she want to be mounted by just any Goober? I think not.
The odds for problems far outweigh the chances for fun...sort of like prospecting for gold in the desert.
2007-02-13 20:38:09
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answered by Anonymous
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Used to be a swinger, and left the lifestyle and will never go back, it almost destroyed my marriage. It's NOT a healthy lifestyle for couples to be in, because it is nothing more than consentual cheating. God created sex to be between a husband and wife alone, not a husband and another man's wife.
About those who if it's not their thing, moving right along, if you don't want to hear negative things about it, then DON'T post a question about it.
If your married, DON'T get into the lifestyle, it will cause nothing but problems.
2007-02-13 20:12:08
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answered by Bryan M 5
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I am not a swinger but i have worked in a porn store where you see and hear alot. LOL. I must say alot of people are but it is kept very quite.
2007-02-13 20:05:20
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answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4
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I was in the lifestyle for a few years as part of a couple, and as a single. For those that can handle it, there can be some interesting and fun experiences and it can teach you a lot about people and relationships (and how others view sex).
For couples with ANY insecurity or jealousy, it should not even be considered.
2007-02-13 20:06:22
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answered by . 7
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I wish I was !!!!! still trying to talk the wife into it
2007-02-13 21:56:28
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answered by 4eagles 2
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