Help me please overcome this I am looking for REAL people
2007-02-13 11:55:38 · 8 answers · asked by forevercharmed2983 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
back out of the relationship, neither of you are meant for each other.
2007-02-13 11:59:05 · answer #1 · answered by St♥rmy Skye 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to overcome this might be to find a Gay - not Bi guy to have a relationship with. I have rarely seen a person in a relationship with someone bi feel completely secure. There always seems to be doubt...and the bi guy I was involved with didn't do a lot to make me feel secure.
I thought it was me - till I moved on!!! Hard to do, but it was VERY worth it. Best of luck - you will be fine!
2007-02-13 20:06:17 · answer #2 · answered by ImUrMan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok I've totally been jealous before, my bf's ex lived right next door to him, so I do understand. But basically how I was able to change was through becoming more spiritually aware and that was through reading books on the subject and just trying to grow everyday into a better person.
As for the jealousy in particular I was able to realize that I was afraid that if my boyfriend cheated or even looked at another girl or anything that I was that not only would I get hurt, but that it would show me that he thought that I was somehow less than and not good enough. Which is ultimately what I thought about myself. Basically I realize now that no one can hurt me unless i choose to be hurt, and no one can make me jealous unless I choose to be jealous.
I know most of us are raised to believe that our emotions are beyond our control and that we can't choose how we feel, but that's not true, you choose everything in life it only seems like you're not choosing it because it's become such a habit that it feels like it's natural for you to be jealous. What I have learned though is with practice and consciously choosing to feel happy about yourself regardless of what your boyfriend or anyone else is doing is the only way to truly control your life.
Because if you think about it, by freaking out and getting jealous whenever your boyfriend looks at someone else is basically putting your life into someone else's hands. You don't want to do that because your life is the only thing that you have, so you have to control yourself.
What's so funny is that by you being jealous, you're attracting more situations into your life to bring that emotion out of you, once you start to control your emotions you're going to find that the same things that would have hurt you awhile ago, doesn't hurt at all anymore, and that your boyfriend is going to change the way he treats u too, just because your energy has changed.
Also, just remember that jealousy is a really negative emotion that is only shutting down the love in your life and preventing you from loving not only your boyfriend, but yourself, and other people. So you definitely need to work on it.
2007-02-13 20:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by fergalicious 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you knew he was bi when you went into your relationship, then you needed to be prepared for the possible outcome. Jealousy is based on insecurity, and you must decide if he is worth the cost of your emotions. Your answer should be NO, by the way.
Feeling betrayed is feeling betrayed. No one wants to feel that way. If he knows how you feel, yet continues making you feel this way, then you have to consider that he doesn't care as deeply as you do. Either find someone willing to commit, who shares your own perspective, or you will continue to suffer through relationships where the other person is living however they choose, while you struggle to compromise. Unless you learn to have a say, and live by it, you will always be compromising your self respect and emotions.
2007-02-13 20:11:58 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it involves ur partner being with someone else u shouldnt have to overcome it because u have every right to be... if it is a thing where u are delusional about it then u need to get a handle on that ...
2007-02-13 20:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being with a bisexual is not going to help your predisposition to jealousy. You need to end the relationship and speak with a therapist about your massive insecurities.
2007-02-13 20:15:43 · answer #6 · answered by castle h 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A jealous gay doesn't belong with a bisexual. You need to just break up before you get hurt.
2007-02-13 20:01:38 · answer #7 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The difficulty with jealousy is that it mostly happens to people who have a hard time accepting love. Take a moment to realize that you are lovable, and accept the gift of love.
Peace
2007-02-13 19:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋