My husband has a hard time sleeping, and is easily agitated and tired. Plus he works odd hours. I babysit all day, take care of my seventeen month old daugther and homeschool my 8 year old son. With all the busyness of the day I was just curious if anybody had any ideas (even crazy ones) on how to spice up this marriage!! We need help! We seem to be snapping at each other over the stupidest things, I would rather be snuggeling and having sex!! PLEASE HELP!
2007-02-13 11:36:33 · 11 answers · asked by Rebecca44 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well actions speak louder than words here. most sane guys just will not keep fighting if their wife kneels, unzips and starts sucking hungerly. After that, most of the fight is gone, at least for a while, now to find a woman that clever....
2007-02-13 12:26:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anon Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have trouble sleeping because of the odd hours? I'd have him see a doc to rule out other problems. And look for a job with regular hours.
Can you have a date night where you get a sitter and go out, even for an hour? Or, in the bedroom, try some role-play? (as an example, he could be the cable guy...or whatever you want).
I'd also suggest doing physical activities together, even as a family, like a walk. Exercise gets the blood pumping to all the right places, and makes people happier. If you can do something like hike, just you and your husband, maybe you'll get lucky in the bushes!
2007-02-13 11:56:21 · answer #2 · answered by shrinkydinkheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to keep a good sleep schedule when you work odd hours, but he needs to try. Get some over the counter sleeping pills and get him to try taking 1/2 of one about a half hour before he goes to bed. Ask him if you can give him a full body massage and then hopefully that will lead to making love. Hide love notes in his lunch box, in his underwear drawer, or anywhere else you think he might find them when you are not around. Do little things for him that you usually wouldn't do. Make sure you say I love you every day and MEAN it...look him in the eyes when you say it and give him a kiss on the cheek. Get a babysitter more often and break out those sexy panties, do the makeup and the hair thing just like you used to when you were dating. Dance naked for him. Take a bath with him with some wine and candles. Give him a coupon that reads 'this is good for one night of your wildest fantasy with me!' and see what happens. Send him flowers at work with one silk rose in the middle and a note that says, 'my love will last long after the last rose fades.' But really....get a babysitter!
2007-02-13 11:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you mean about things getting a little dull in marriages--'cause from what I heard, it happens to a lot of people. I know that's no consolation whilst going through it, but at least you have other people who empathize with you. :D
One idea that I heard of from a friend who's married, is to make a specific date night at least one night of the week (or day, if nights don't work right now). Get someone to babysit, if you can, and just go to dinner or a movie, to start out with. I know it'll seem forced sometimes, but I've heard that once you start getting more into it, it's easy to become creative with where to go and what to do (thus making for a spicier time together). ;)
Try to think of things that you know he likes, specifically. For example, if he likes a certain restaurant, or a certain sport, think of something that would coincide with those interests.
Good luck! And I think I should take some of my own advice. ;)
2007-02-13 11:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take time out for each other. What ever the two of you want to do. Go out to eat or plan a movie and diner in the living room. Make sure you go out of the way to say something nice to each other everyday. Both learn to let things go and get on with being happy. Just make sure that you take the time for the two of you so that each get your attention that you need. If you want to do something tell him where you can do it and he needs to do the same. Enjoy what you have and don't worry about other things at that time. The strss you cause from worrying about stuff that you can do nothing about drags you down. Go out stay in just give each other attention.
2007-02-13 12:18:25 · answer #5 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wanna know too:) I homeschool, work fulltime out of hte home and at home. The only time i jazz it up is on weekends and usually taht is only one time which sucks. Try having someone babysit for you while you two go out. we do that and i am even bored with that lol. If youfind any good ideas give me a holler lol.
2007-02-13 12:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by shyhonney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having the same problem, pretty damn bored so I'm taking a couple classes at the local community college to find something that interests me. Last semester I learned to take blood, this semester theater & acting, next semester sewing. Just try it all anything that seems intresting to you.
2016-05-24 07:08:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Working odd hours is a strain in the relationship.
2007-02-13 12:10:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to see a sleep specialist.
I had those problems. I had all the tests done and it turns out I have narcolepsy. Funky drugs have saved my life.
2007-02-13 11:40:33 · answer #9 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dress up. always good. no matter how hard times are if I break out a sexy get up my hubby is a happy boy!
2007-02-13 11:44:41 · answer #10 · answered by The Voice Of Reason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋