I am so confused. I love my husband but I am in love with my boyfriend. I have never felt like this with anyone in my life.
2007-02-13 11:33:10 · 23 answers · asked by Beachdog2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Been there, done that, got the tee shirt. Divorced the husband, married the boyfriend, then watched him run off with my best friend.
Don't mess up your life.
2007-02-13 11:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by j3nny3lf 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Look into your heart, do you want to be with your husband or with this "boyfriend?" You married your husband for a reason,and for whatever reason you made a bad choice and had an affair, which is really sh***y by the way...you need to ask yourself what is missing with your husband or within yourself that made you have the affair in the first place. If you leave your husband for this "boyfriend" then your selfish and stupid...(well your already both considering you had the affair to begin with) Did your husband ever cheat on you? What justifies this in your mind that makes any of it okay??? This question goes to show the morals of people today!! I mean come on, where is the committment anymore? I hope for your sake and your husbands you break off this "boyrfriend" thing and work on yourself and your marriage!
If you felt empty enough to cheat on your husband you would cheat again eventually with this "boyfriend" as well. Break the cycle and work on yourself and your current marriage! That is my two cents! Goodbye
2007-02-13 11:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca44 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you have never felt like this. If you filled your bath tub up with eels , and jumped in, you would have never felt like that. Marriage isn't supposed to always feel brand new. It's just not fair for you to carry on like you are without your husband knowing. The guy your having an affair with isn't worth much speaking of a long term relationship either. So if your looking for temporary feeling I guess you found it.
2007-02-13 13:39:41 · answer #3 · answered by patrarno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love.....true love!!! It s never for free, unfortunately it always comes with a sacrifice and someone or more will get hurt!
There is no room to criticize you for your situation. Confusion is exactly what you should be going through. Sure you love your husband and don't want to be the source of his pain, but just imagine the pain and resentment he will develop knowing that you might be thinking about another man...the man that you really are in love with! I wouldn't want to be him!
You are obviously a caring person whose fate with timing has brought you to a major crossroad in your life.
My advice to you is...
Get away from the situation....both of them!
Take some time to collect your thoughts. not just about leaving your husband because that seems imminent anyway, but also about rushing off to marry this guy! I know you have been seeing him for 4 years, but sweetheart believe me it is miles away from living with someone day in and day out! Think about how you are going to protect yourself and your money over the next few years until you really know this guy is ready to live in the adult world of living together. Plan for no less than three days to get your head on straight....turn that cell phone off! I really wish you all the luck and hope that this boyfriend really is the 'ONE" for you!
Good luck!
2007-02-13 11:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by CSnumber1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your husband must be pretty undersanding to let that go on. One question, how would you feel if he had someone on the side too? I am not gonna help you make a decision, just say, you need to choose one or the other, because it's not fair to either. Either be faithful to your husband or divorce him and be with the other guy, let your husband move on. If you love him so much don't you think he deserves to be happy too?
2007-02-13 11:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by Silly Billy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just pick and stick with your decision. If you're staying with your husband (who you picked previously) then just be with him and don't cheat. If you leave him for the boyfriend be aware that what goes around comes around and it's likely that he could have problems trusting you once he marries you because he may think you'll do to him what you did to your current husband as soon as it's not as fun anymore.
2007-02-13 11:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by Zonte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely you experience harm and want love. If this guy cheated on his modern spouse, then what makes you imagine he received't cheat on you? youthful little ones, no you stay b/c you experience the opt to stay. that's 2 selections all of us have being married, stay or go away. Love your self first...then your little ones...then a guy. i imagine you want to get over the damage your husband has led to you and provides you up searching for a speedy fix out of your mistress. in the precise God choose all, and your are interior of an identical boat as your husband.
2016-11-03 09:24:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"[Name], do you take [Name] to be your wedded [husband/wife] to live together in marriage. Do you promise to love, comfort, honor and keep [him/her] For better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health. And forsaking all others, be faithful only to [him/her] so long as you both shall live?"
I'm guessing you skipped the 'forsaking all others' part at your wedding?
You've been cheating with this 'man' for 4 years and your 'husband' knows about it.
Leave the husband. Give him whatever he wants, but get away from him. You and the boyfriend deserve each other.
2007-02-13 11:49:13 · answer #8 · answered by honeys9702 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Terrible situation. You shouldnt have cheated in the first place! You are married for a reason and if you love your husband you wouldn tbe doing this to him. You have alot of thinking to do.
2007-02-13 12:12:34 · answer #9 · answered by alienchick_87 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
j3nny3lf explained it perfectly. Don't mess up your life. I've seen it happen to a few ppl I knew, they left their spouse for another person and the second relation fell apart shortly after... at the end they regreted their decision but it was way too late...
If your husband is a good person and loves you, DON"T DO THIS FOR YOUR OWN SAKE.
2007-02-13 11:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by Shelley S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋