I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 19....he's in the Army.We've been together for two years...we were thinking about marriage, I love him dearly and I want to spend the rest of my life with him but is to early...im I too young?
2007-02-13 11:28:40 · 49 answers · asked by Ashley B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm a freshmen in college....I've shopped around and meet ALOT of guys but none of them interested me...same with him!
2007-02-13 11:56:54 · update #1
Yes.
Live independently, get an education, learn how to take care of yourself. Give yourself the opportunity to meet people, travel and establish a sense of yourself.
You are very, very young. What is the hurry?
2007-02-13 11:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I think u should wait. Try things like moving in together once hes comes back from the army. You get to know a person a lot more deeply once u have lived with him. See how the both of u will manage bills, cleaning the house, cooking, shopping, and just being around each other a lot. If he has to leave during this time it will also allow u to see how u will deal with managing the house while hes gone and how u will deal with him being gone (emotionally.) Do this for about a year. It will give u a good idea of what marriage will be like. If u still want to marry him after the year then you should do it.
2007-02-21 05:42:08 · answer #2 · answered by Chrissilicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait!
The Army life will affect your Boyfriend. He is going to change. This is a fact of life in the military.
Does he plan on staying in the Army and making it a career?
Have you looked into what life as a military wife is like? You will spend most of the time without him around. My Daughter's Husband was not in a job that required he go to Iraq but she still spend 75% of her marriage without him. When he finally came back to the States and they did live together, they found they had grown apart. They are now both remarried.
Again! The Army life will affect your Boyfriend. He is going to change. This is a fact of life in the military.
Wait! If you love is true and strong, you will be together forever whether you ever get married!
2007-02-20 00:46:27 · answer #3 · answered by maj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I know what you are going through. I was married at 18 years old. I love my husband dearly. That was only four years ago. My advice though would be to wait. Get through school. I wish I had. It is easier when you can support yourself financially and emotionaly. At 18 we are still developing our sense of selves. It is hard to commit with someone when you are not quite sure who you are or where you are going. Your lives may grow together and some paths you will take together, but both you still have seperate paths to take. If you think you can handle the emotions and the ups and downs at this age then do what you think is best. Remember you two love each other and there is plenty of time to get married.
2007-02-13 11:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you feel a need to ask this question, you probably need more time to be single. Love lasts a lifetime, but your adult life has just begun. If you want to go to college, travel, or do things you haven't done yet, do them before you get married. There's a tremendous amount of responsibility that goes hand-in-hand with creating a strong marriage. You are obviously a level-headed young lady, and I have a hunch you will make the right decisions for your life! Have a phenomenal day! Annie
2007-02-13 11:37:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age and maturity needed for the committment of marriage, are not to be given equal parameters, in choosing to marry.
When to marry, for a man , is far different than that of women.
It takes both of you to CONTINOUSLY make marriage work.
Based upon your own experiences, can you recall things you know now that you did not, say 1,2,5 or even 10 years ago?
Certainly, this is to be internalized as a question, so that you can determine the readiness of this valiant young man. He, too, needs to go through this process.
Upon a significant meditation of these things, you and only you will know if YOU are ready or too young to wed.
In today's world, marriage is a disposable product. Very few consider marriage to be an honorable and devoted relationship.
Marriage is a wonderful opportunity to share oneself in an enviroment of trust ( knowing this person will champion you) and a place where no one passed judgement, loving despite mistakes(BOTH will make).
Get married when you can truly enjoy it. UPS. Downs. All together.
2007-02-13 12:39:42 · answer #6 · answered by jerry h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 19 and my fiance is 21. We plan on getting Married next year. I will also be starting college this year and will be a freshman when we get married. I say if it all feels right go for it. Follow your heart. Just be careful and make sure your marriage doesn't get dampered because of bad planning. If your plans aren't all inact you may want to wait. but if u feel secure enough nothing else should stop you :)
If you are personally having doubts I would wait it out though.
2007-02-13 12:18:01 · answer #7 · answered by alienchick_87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married when I was 15 and let me tell you that you are too young. by the time I was 20 I was divorced. if you truly do love each other you will wait. you might feel that you are ready and that there is no one else out there for you and that just might be the case but why rush it. take your time and you will know when its right. don't just do it because he is in the Army and you are worried about what will happen while he is away or that it might be the only way you can see each other. if it was meant to be, it will happen later. you have so much more to do in your life then to be worrying about that right now.
2007-02-21 02:30:55 · answer #8 · answered by Queen of the Nile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is too early. Marriage is forever. If you're going to spend the rest of your life with someone why rush it? You're in college. You definitely have time to get a degree and a well-paying job before marriage even comes into the picture.
Good luck!
2007-02-19 11:56:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both feel that you are really ready to make that commitment, then do it. If it was the wrong decision you will be the first to know. Don't think about what anyone else say's, do what you think will make you happy. If that happens to be getting married at 18, do it. I too was married at a young age, it didn't work out, but I learned a lot from the whole ordeal. My decision was quck and naive, I didn't know him like I thought I did, but if you both feel strongly that this is what you want, then be happy. I wish you the best.
2007-02-13 11:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by Silly Billy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are young, but in terms of ARMY wives, you are an old maid. The guy I am interested in is 20 and in the ARMY. I'm 18, and I have been ready to get married for years. I think you should wait until you graduate college before you marry him. Engagement is fine while still in school, but don't get married until graduation.
If he is about to be deployed, and you are going to college, then it should be okay to marry him. Just remember that you will have lots of distractions in college.
2007-02-21 05:25:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋