Do couples who swing ever get jealous?

Answer 1

i think that if you are already in that mindset, the jealousy stage is long gone. i for one could never swing, because i could never let go of the jealousy and mental image of him with another woman...but that is just me.

Answer 2

Yes, even though a big part of swinging is not being jealous, there is always something that could trigger a jealous response. The difference between swingers and many others is that swingers understand the jealousy and themselves and thus handle it better and with little or no drama between them and their spouse. Swingers know that jealousy is personal insecurity and has nothing to do with their spouse. Many people never understand this and go around blaming their spouse for their personal issues, and consequently are constantly in fear their spouse is going to do something to hurt them. Swingers know this isn't the case.

Below is a link to some great information and discussions about jealousy on The Swingers Board.

Answer 3

Yes, occasionally, BUT...

...and this is a big 'but'

...jealousy is generally not viewed as a problem in and of itself. Jealous is rather a catch-all term for all sorts of negative emotions that could have been caused by any combination of actions/inactions, words or attitudes. "Jealousy" is considered an abnormal condition, and is not the problem: it is the SYMPTOM of deeper underlying problems.

So if, for example, I had a twinge of jealousy over seeing my husband with another woman, I wouldn't freak out. I would take a step back from myself and take stock of the situation. What exactly was that emotion I just experienced? What triggered it specifically? Why would I feel that way? Is the feeling justified? Jealousy is just a red flag that warns you to slow down and talk to your partner. Figure out what got miscommunicated. Sort it out. Once you've cleared the air, you feel like a million bucks and you're ready to take on anything. Confidence in your relationship soars to a new peak because you no longer have to worry. You asked the question, you found your answer. Now you know: you WERE just being a silly a**! Of COURSE he didn't actually think that! What did you take him for?

Sorry folks, but I think swinging rocks.

Answer 4

Everyone one gets jealous. Swingers and non alike. However, the one element that swingers have over monogoumus couples is their ability to communicate these feelings of jealousy to their partner.

Swingers have rules. Each coule has differnt rules that apply to them. Some swingers only do a soft swap (everything but penetration) Because they are jealous of seeing penetration with another person. Some people have rules agaist kissing. Just as an example.

Another thing swingers have, is the knowldege that this is JUST sex. That there is NO romantic interest in the other couple whatsoever! Most people don't grasp this idea about swingers.

We also love each other more than a monagoumus couple. Why? beacuse we are letting our S/O fulfill their sexual fantasies without hurt feelings or bitter emotions (or most importantly cheating!!) I don't recommend swinging for people who ARE overly jealous, or are insecure with themselves. These are the ones that don't say they are jealous, they just let it go on and on and on and on until it becomes an issue..

I hope that kinda clears things up for ya..

email me if you need anymore ;)

Answer 5

its like this the question should be if i don't want to have jealousy issues while swinging what should i make sure is happening in my relationship because as someone in a happy and healthy marriage of 11 years that includes swinging for the last 2 and a half we have never had this problem why because we love each other and not the person we are having sex with! sex does not =love! if your relationship is strong and you are not the jealous type and you two have good communication and are doing this for the right reasons not to make a relationship better or spice up a dead marriage or make your spouse happy then you should have no problem just take it slow talk a lot and know its not for everyone!

Answer 6

I would think that of all the couples who try this some will encounter jealous at some point. The ones who contine on in the lifestyle probably aren't the ones who experiences the jealousy.

Answer 7

YES, dear, they most certainly do.

It is one of the biggest problems that arise out of that scenario.

No couple should even consider it unless their relationship is ROCK solid and they are both "on the same page."

Jealousy is not the only pitfall, though. There's also performance anxiety, and whatever personal quirks the other couple brings to the scenario.

We enjoyed an incredible year with another couple, but we also had to endure interviews and occasional get-togethers with a number of less-than-desirable couples.

Answer 8

People in this lifestyle who do get jealous don't last long but yes it can and sometimes does happen. You have to be able to realize that there is a difference between love and sex. You also have to be comfortable with knowing that your significant other is enjoying and being enjoyed sexually by someone other than yourself. If you feel left out it's probably not for you. If you feel happy for them that they are enjoying themselves than you're most likely not going to have a problem with it. The key is not being emotionally involved or committed to anyone other than your significant other.

Answer 9

unless they have their short comings .
if you a confident person ,and created in your marriage a strong foundation ,you should be alright .
my question is ,why would you want to rock the boat,unless there's something missing .
start hanging from the chandelier,so you both don't get bored with the same thing's.

Answer 10

They shouldn't get jealous if they decided to be a swinger. I for one could never do that.