I'm a library aide at my school, along with 2 others. One is my friend, Jessi, we played basketball, but we really weren't close, and the other is Brandon, he is someone I had never met before and we became friends.
The truth is, I'm bisexual. And one of my 2007 resolutions was to come "out of the closet." Well, it just so happens that Brandon was the first I came out to. After knowing him for now 7 months (since school started), I finally muttered up enough courage to tell him how I felt.
He said, "No, but don't try touching of feelking on me. I respect you and how you believe, but I ain't like that." I respect him also and I'm so glad he didn't betray me. His reaction was better than I expected, but not what I dreamed. Today was the first day of school we had since I told him, and he barely said a word do me.
Did I make a mistake? I know he said he was OK and all, but is there any way to fix our relationship? I'd rather have him only as a friend than not in my life at all.
2007-02-13 11:13:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Which is more important here? The coming-out or your friend? Ya know, friends come and go all throughout your life. But coming out?! Heck, that's an important event and it shows you have the courage to do it. I'm proud of you.
As you live past this, perhaps what's important is learning who to trust and why. Once you figure out for yourself the why of trusting someone, I'm sure you'll do just fine.
And, if Brandon is ignoring you now, just remember that there will be someone for you. You might have to wait, but why not wait for a love that will make you feel good about yourself?
You deserve someone who makes you feel good just to be you.
So, don't give up on yourself!
You are the important part to all of this.
2007-02-13 11:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by Hoolia 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You did not do the wrong thing, if he cannot handle this then he has the problem. It could take some time for him to absorb this information, he may feel a little uncomfortable. Homophobia rears its ugly head constantly. People should know that just because this is your choice that you are not going to shove it down their throats. I wish you luck and will pray that your situation will end up the right way! If he doesn't come around, then he wasnt your friend in the first place. Brightest Blessings and Blessed Be.
2007-02-13 19:21:18 · answer #2 · answered by jules 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
No. You did not make a mistake. You've gotta be honest with yourself about how you feel. And it's never a mistake to tell someone you consider a friend that you're bi. The mistake is on him for not knowing a true friend when he sees one.
But, if he doesn't adjust to the facts and therefore can't be your friend, sure it'll hurt, but you don't need people like that in your life. They accept you all the way or not at all. End of story.
2007-02-13 19:18:23 · answer #3 · answered by SnowFlats 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You didn't make a mistake at all. If he is going to treat you like that, then he isn't a very good friend to being with. A true friend would stick up for you and encourage knowing it took you a lot of strength to come out. So i commend you on that and you didn't make the wrong decision, it hopefully made you more confident and less worried about what others might think if you tell them too.
2007-02-13 19:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
his reaction, sadly, is fairly common. most straight people assume that bisexuals want to have sex with everyone in the world..
i've known about my bisexuality for a few months now, but i am very careful about who i tell. there generally has to be a good reason for each person i tell. personal life is "personal" so not everyone "needs" to know all the details about who i am, how i feel, etc..
but i can understand how it feels to need to get it off your chest.. and perhaps telling a new friend wasn't the best thing. but hey, you're gonna get mixed reactions, so tell whomever you feel you need to, and at least you will eventually learn who your true friends really are..
2007-02-13 20:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might pain you to hear this but I don't think he really liked the fact that you came out and said you were bisexual. Maybe if there is a way to be friends don't go to him anymore about your sexual orientation. Find someone else to confide in.
Good luck. I mean it!
2007-02-13 20:25:16 · answer #6 · answered by leavemebe_11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I finally muttered up enough courage to tell him how I felt" are you talking about "how you felt" about him or about being bi? I assume you must have told him you had feelings for him since he made the "don't try touching of feeling on me" comment.
If you didn't tell him you had feelings for him and he made that comment you needed to set him straight...errr, correct him!
If you did tell him you had feelings for him - why the HELL did you do that???
2007-02-13 19:36:44 · answer #7 · answered by ImUrMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone, and keep your sexuality to yourself...it is really no one's business but yours. You are crusing for a bruising if you insist on telling people your orientation. There is absolutely no need to do this, it serves no purpose at this point in your life, and I hope that this guy does not spread it around the school. (that is a lot to hope for). Good luck
2007-02-13 19:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
Guys are weird.
2007-02-13 19:19:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋