why do people get jealous when they can actually, become a better person?

Question

Why do people get jealous for anything, I mean nothing is impossible to obtain. Anyone can accomplish good things in life, but I guess some people throw in the towel and give up. Did you ever get jealous before and why.

What usually makes a person jealous?

I just want to know, I need this for an essay I'm going to write.

I guess god has given every1 something to be happy about. Some one might have money, another person might have good health, someone else may have a close family.

Someone might have alot of money, but is lying in a hospital bed.

Answer 1

i never understood that myself. i dont get jealous. i believe that jealousy is a form of insecurity.

Answer 2

Hello. Sounds like an interesting and introspective project you are working on. Actually, for me, jealousy is something that I feel like has not affected me very much. I guess I had other issues like depression. Everyone seems to display their own sort of neurotic tendencies. But I think that no matter the form that they take, there is a similar thread the runs through them all.

So, let's take a look at jealousy for a minute. Its' anger at not having something that someone else has and you don't. I guess another word for that is envy. Seems kind of weird doesn't it, to be angry at someone for having something that you don't? Anyway, we could say that it's because there is a belief, either a conscious or an unconscious belief that we are lacking somehow. We are lacking on either an inner level or an outer level and that "thing" we wish to possess would complete us, fulfill us or make real some sort of fantasy that we have about what our lives. In a sense I think then that jealousy is just a hatred of yourself that just gets projected onto something else, some thing or some person and that distracts from the pain of insecurity or lack that we have within ourselves or about ourselves. I think it is just a psychological defense that prevents us from really looking at ourselves in any sort of deep or meaningful way. And I think that this defense is used because we are afraid to do it. My feeling is that depressoin, anger, and lots of other issues that people deal with day to day serve the same purpose, they just play out differently due to personal or learned tendencies.

And to answer your question about why be jealous when you can be a better person? Well, you have to value wanting to be a better person more than being jealous in order to make that change. That's my two cents. Thanks for asking.

Answer 3

I agree with your philosophy, and that jealousy is a wasted emotion. However I've been culprit to being envious of friends who have reached or achieved something I wanted sooner than I have. For example, when a classmate from my graduating class got a really fantastic job, while I was still sending out resumes. I managed to get over myself and be happy for my classmate after I realized how I was feeling.

Answer 4

Jealousy is the most uncontrollable emotion in humanity. Most jealousy involves a break up of a couple, love ends. Someone else takes your place, all your efforts and things have ended.