My son is awesome...he makes decent grades in school, he loves sports, he has lots of friends, but this young man makes excuses for everything!!! If he doesn't want to get up in the morning for school, he has lots of excuses. When I ask him a question, his first answer is "I didn't know!" or "you didn't tell me!" It is making me crazy, especially that I am a single mom and there really is no father figure in his life. He is respectful to me, but on occassion he just makes excuse after excuse until I blow a fuse! Then it's almost like we go to our separate corners until we've both cooled off and then try and talk about it. He's difficult to talk to though, because the excuses start coming again. I'm at a loss. I know he's a tweenager, and going through puberty, and I am thankful for the great kid he is, but I want him to be responsible for his actions!
2007-02-13 10:57:36 · 6 answers · asked by The rest is still Unwritten 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What you do requires effort, patience and love. You have got to communicate with him, take your time with your son, don't be in a hurry, if you're in a hurry then you tell your son that you and him have got to have a talk if that talk warrants ample time and explanation over whatever the problem is. He's still a boy growing up, but you are all he's got and all he has, and he obviously doesn't see that all his excuses are putting you at odds with motherhood. It'll be alright, trust me on this one, I remember when I was 12, unluckily I didn't have a mother like you since I come from a different culture, I had to learn lots of things on my own. Please, talk with your son, and the more you open up your heart to him as a mother to a son, things will take a positive course but it won't work unless you apply motherly love with stern discipline and explanation..thank you.
2007-02-13 11:07:12 · answer #1 · answered by Pink Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK... I'm 12 years old too.... i understand what u mean cuz i do that too almost everyday and my parents get mad. I usually only do this when i want to keep the answer to myself.... or i just don't want to say.... what i would do if i were you would be try not to ask so many questions but when your son makes up excuses either ignore it or find another time or place to ask that question. ur son maybe going through puberty fazes just don't try to worry so much until his excuses really go out of hand
2007-02-13 11:08:54 · answer #2 · answered by Kate L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him responsible! Put him in charge of things and make him take responsibility. You can start by making him do little things in the house.
There has not been a man in your house to show him that, so you have to do it.
And also don't forget to give him confidence! excuses can often come as a result of low self confidence.
If you have to repeat something, do it! It's better to be there than to ignore it.
2007-02-13 11:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. He's twelve. It's going to get worse before it gets better (said the mother of four boys).
Don't ever stop loving him and telling him often. He's going through turmoil. He needs you to be rock steady.
2007-02-13 11:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just his age
2007-02-13 11:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him
2007-02-13 11:01:23 · answer #6 · answered by Karate Gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋