2007-02-13 10:54:04 · 17 answers · asked by trueflawlessknot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And the question is?
If you're unhappy in your marriage and you don't want to leave, then you either get to be unhappily married, or you can try to get some family / personal counseling.
It sounds like you're suffering from inertia, as in, "a body at rest remains at rest". You need to DO something. Either find a way to be happy within the marriage, get counseling, get out, or decide you're okay with being unhappy.
I wish you the best of luck!
2007-02-13 12:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found myself in the same situation years ago- someone close to me said "to treat my husband the way I wished He would treat me" this sounded like a bunch of poo- but I gave it a try- because we have a child-about a year later we had the best marriage ever- and still do- I don't expect him to give in if we argue- I just act as though it never happened and He gets over it- I treat him like a king and he treats me like his queen- we have our moments- but that is all I allow them to be- moments- I have taken back my marriage from saten and given it over to God- I have learned that if I become my husbands help meet I am blessed in many ways- I had to let go of the flesh and what it wanted- to beat him and walk!! but I didn't and am much happier for it-- it is a struggle and I had to forget what my flesh wanted me to do- it's a big farce at first- but then you really do want to make him happy- and .. I have a great marriage to show for it--besides - the Bible does not say just " for better"- and the worse is not as bad as being an adulterer and going to hell.
2007-02-13 11:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by drox 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is beating you, then leave. Otherwise, if the marriage is just going through a bad phase, please get some marital counselling. Sometimes a pastor can help, but not always (if he is the kind who says: woman, all you have to do is submit and everything will be fine" or if he gives overly easy answers without doing any digging, then he is unqualified to do marital counselling). So find a counsellor, and if it doesn't work out, don't give up, find another one. Counsellors can be changed. Husbands, not so easily.
2007-02-13 11:08:00 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Ed 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't give alot of details but the fact that you don't want to leave your husband tells me that you are willing to do whatever it takes to improve your relationship ... congratulations ... this is the most important step. Perhaps some counselling will help now. Good luck ... I wish you happiness and peace within your marriage :-)
Here's some Dr. Phils links that I hope help you;
"Maintaining A Successful Relationship"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/142
"Saving A Marriage"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/349
2007-02-13 11:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have starred one or two answers here because unlike some they manage to remain sensible, empathise and be helpful despite the lack of information! I think the authors of my starred messages understand that sometimes when we are in a mess and when we most need to express our troubles we feel consumed, we don't know what to say or how to start! I'd like to help more if you feel comfortable and the need to PM me with more detail! :)
2007-02-13 11:18:14 · answer #5 · answered by keithanthony0169 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you're not happy in the marriage then try to make it better and give it some time. then if it doesnt get any better than i would say leave him, becaue nobody wants to be in a unhappy relationship no matter how much you love him..
2007-02-13 11:01:22 · answer #6 · answered by Sexychick87cutiegurl j 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
amm.. you sound unhappy to me..
first of all, you must be happy coz you are gona be 34
second about your marriage, why you are unhappy ??? if its because of your husband , try working this out since you dont want to leave him!! you didnt mention why you are unhappy?? so i dont think i can help ya much
my only advice is, nothing is perfect, everybody must accept there faith and try living it right and have fun ;)
2007-02-13 10:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by Princesa De Muerte 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can either stay with your husband and be misreable. or leave him and be happy. sometimes you can't have both. especially if your husband is not willing to change. besides being married and having children is not the be all and end all to life. there is way more to life than getting married and having children and life is too short.
2007-02-13 11:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U need to ask your self why your unhappy then go from there.
2007-02-13 10:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by Tyresa C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time for you to meet a well endowed man and have him give you some happiness on the side, doggy style. It's easy, check craigslist and find the big man of your dreams...
2007-02-13 11:07:49 · answer #10 · answered by slick_pavement 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋