My birth father was not there when I was growing up. My mother divorced him when I was a baby because he physically abused her while she was pregnant and continued to after I came along. I saw him once when I was 7, and then again when I was 18. While I was growing up he would send me a postcard, making big promises to do this or that with me and never following through. Now I am 29 and he has started to come into my life again, making the same promises to my kids. He mailed a box to me for my birthday, but it was all junk (stuff you couldn't get a nickel for at a yard sale). A broken metal lunch box with old peanuts and candy stuck to the inside, for example. I am not sure I want to build on this relationship. He says I love you but I don't feel it- and I don't love him. I can't forget what he did to my mom but I am friendly when he calls. How would you respond to someone who says I love you and you don't love them? So far I have been saying, "thank you".
2007-02-13 10:47:57 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He makes many promises to come out here and visit and doesn't come. (he lives out of state) Two years ago he did come, with absulotely ZERO notice, and called from the airport at 6am saying, "Im down here, pick me up."
2007-02-13 10:50:28 · update #1
Then while he was here, he was always sleeping. He'd get up and want a meal cooked, then go back to bed. We had an ice storm and all flights were grounded and we had him almost 2 weeks.
2007-02-13 10:52:27 · update #2
Sorry, but he is just a nut looking for attention. Don't bother with him...he didn't give a damn about you, wanted no responsibility for you and just didn't care about anyone but himself. Leave him by himself...he should be alone and lonely and die that way. Beast that he is. You owe him nothing. You would also show disrespect for your mother by thinking such thoughts. He's worthless, useless and obviously out of touch with reality sending you junk. The city streets are loaded with bums like him. Give him the same gift of your memories he gave you. Forget about him.
2007-02-13 11:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the oldest of 6 or maybe more, we all have different mothers and I found out that when I was born my father didn't acknowledge me as his child. My mom always told me bad things about him and when I got to know him I found most to be true. He would do for everyone else but there was always a problem when I needed help. Looking at the other kids I am so glad that he wasn't a big part of my life. He passed away years ago I can't say that I was hurt or that I even miss him. You can't miss something or someone that you never had.
2007-02-13 11:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by trueluv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has not been a father to you when he should have been, and he will never be. Don't fool yourself dear. Just live your life and don't worry about him. Try and minimize the relationship over time, if you don't want to just cut it off. His presence won't do anything other than to bring back horrible memories and to make you upset.
2007-02-13 10:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
politely tell him you're an adult and you dont need him...
2007-02-13 10:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋