I was sexually harrassed by my colleage. He kept falling on to me and touching me on streets of groningen in netherlands way back in 2004. It has really affected my self dignity and affected me personally. I wish to file a sexual harassment case now. Is it possible to get those pictures at bus stops which may have been captured at bus stop ? If so any idea whom to contact? I require evidence.
2007-02-13 10:39:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
But thats not all when i asked him to stop he said he is in love with me and wants to marry me. Since i said no i do not love he said god was unfair to him coz i said no.. i believed in him that he truly loved me.. we had an affair for 3 years..but now i hear he is going to get married to someone else.. he is not ready to speak to me.. i now feel he just wanted to use me.. so it does affect me..
2007-02-13 11:07:10 · update #1
I asked a question on as to whether i would get pictures somewhere or not!!
Do not need lectures on whether it is sexual harassment or not.
2007-02-14 10:15:13 · update #2
You're scarred THREE YEARS later because a guy fell into you on an open street?
I'd seek psychological help. Seriously.
Edit: Oh, so now you had an affair for three years and want to get him in trouble. Good God. Well, at least you're posting in the right place. I'm sure feminists will be very sympathetic with your misplaced vindictiveness.
Now go seek out that psychological help.
2007-02-13 10:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by Steve 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I completely agree with chdoctor. Pictures would be good but not necessary. You can always file a complaint. I never been involved in a sexual harassment suit, but if anyone saw they could be a witness. Your affair probably makes your chances of a successful suit impossible. Like chdocor said, it look like that you are doing it as punishment. If the touching continued after you relationship was over, and I mean REALLY over (ie. no communications outside of work except professional, no lingering sexual encounters) then maybe you have a case. I would again have to agree with the other respondents, see a therapist and get some help on how to deal with it emotionally. Depending where you work, you might be able to get the psychological help for free.
2007-02-13 19:42:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ummm...are you out of your mind??!!! Good Lord, look up sexual harassment laws, will you?! So you had an affair with him, and now you're upset because he found someone else and moved on? And now you want to file a sexual harassment law suit to "get back at him." Let me just say, to begin with, that you need help, psychological help. And, you don't have a leg to stand on. You have no case...get a clue.
2007-02-14 10:35:07 · answer #3 · answered by wendy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You had an affair with a man that sexually harassed you? You sound crazy. I think you are mad now that he doesn't want you and you are looking for revenge. Sexual harassment is not a term to throw around loosely and if you are claiming it just for vengeful reasons YOU should be arrested for filing a false claim. You are the reason women that deal with real sexual harassment have a hard time. He should be thankful he is not with you anymore.
2007-02-13 19:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by frigginhilarious 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I don't at all mean to be insulting, and I do take sexual harassment seriously, but hearing your additional information about having an affair with him and his impending marriage might lead your readers to suspect that you are only interested in filing charges as a means to punish him for leaving you and marrying another. If such a hypothesis would be correct, then you'd need to take the previous respondant's advice and seek counseling to deal with your emotions. If such a hypothesis is incorrect, please forgive me. I mean nothing personal by it.
2007-02-13 19:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by chdoctor 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
"way back in 2004.". Get over it: see a psychologist or shrink if need be. You had an affair with the guy afterwards!
2007-02-13 22:25:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋