What is or are the secrets of a good marriage?

Answer 1

Something I feel qualified to answer as I've been in a very good marriage for 36 years now!
First is respect for each other as people! We always introduce each other as This is (name), my wife/husband. It reminds us that who we are is more important than what we are!
Second is compromise! You have to learn to live together and without it that would be impossible, how he puts up with my bad habits I don't know, but I've learnt to put up with his!
Third is Honesty in ALL things! Hopefully you have that before the marriage!
Fourth is Partnership! decide what you both want, work together to get it and support each others efforts!
Then the biggest of them all > Talk to each other and listen hard. This is the only way to acheive the others!
With luck and a little bit of hard work in the early years you end up like us, Our love is deeper but still has the sexual excitement it did when we were 'In Love' the arguements are few and far between and whatever life throws at us we face it together! It's not all sweetness and light but what in life is?
If ours isn't a good marriage I really can't think of a better!

Answer 2

We have been married for almost 33 years. Neither has tried to change the other into the person they want them to be, because they already are that person. We have never had a cross word or an argument in all the time we have been together. This is not because we don't care, as someone has suggested, but because we do. We both grew up in constant arguments and rows. Neither wanted to live like that as a couple. We have raised three children, bought a house, paid the bills, and never lived beyond our income. Partnership would be the nearest descriptive word I think. Respecting and using each others strengths and weaknesses to benefit the whole. The most important thing is to communicate the love every day - - not necessarily physically or verbally.

Answer 3

Been married nearly 10 years and my marriage has worked for the following reasons. 1) Don't always pretend everything is great when it clearly isn't. You cannot always rely on love to get you through, you need to be practical and talk about problems honestly when they arrive. 2) Be In Love, not just happen to love. (I think there is a difference). 3) Accept that neither you nor your partner are ever going to be perfect, but never give up trying to be! 4) Always be a little jealous. (It makes you and they realise that you do care!) 5) Talk Talk and Talk. 6) Where possible a good sexual relationship in the bedroom/Dining Room/Stairs/Garden etc helps a lot. 7) Have Fun.

Answer 4

love and understanding, forgiveness, true to each other. ( not all secrets can be shared even in a good marriage. So in a moderate way be truthful to each other) just be happy with each others company. Never to let down your partner too much in front of others. Be supportive.
Most of all your heart will tell you what you find in your marriage. If you think it is the right one then the rest above will follow.

Answer 5

My husband, Mr. GorgeousFluffpot, says that the secret of a good marriage and of keeping his 'family jewels' intact is to do exactly I say. By the way, I gave him permission to answer this !

Answer 6

thia as help keep my marraige very happy for over 20 years...
Respect, understanding, thoughtful, be helpful. Don't be selfish and Laugh together. Always working at it Surprise your partner now and again with romantic gestures, flowers and chocolates etc. Try to keep things alive in the bedroom department on a regular basis this will make your partner feel attractive and sexy.

BUT most of all him saying “yes dear”!!! lol

Answer 7

We have now been together 23yrs and still behave like lovesick teenagers sometimes.
I think the secrets for us was honesty,always saying sorry when we were wrong and keeping love alive.
Surprise your partner now and again with romantic gestures,flowers and chocolates etc.
Try to keep things alive in the bedroom department on a regular basis this will make your partner feel attractive and sexy.
As the years role by this will become more important to her ,that you feel attracted to her like when you first met.
Always treat her with respect this will give her a sense of worth and not just a scivvy to cook and clean for you.
Help with household chores ,cook for her sometimes and leave love notes around for her to find regularly.

Tell her you love her on a regularly basis even when just going out the door to the shops. I tell my wife i love her everyday without fail and she does the same to me.
If you ring her just before ending the call say "Love You",both me and my wife always end are calls like this.
It is not soppy to show affection to someone you love,so be affectionite as much as possible.

KEEP THE FIRE BURNING AND IT WONT EVER GO OUT IS MY MOTO.

Answer 8

Talk and never lose interest, remember that is your partner and there isn't a partnership that remains afloat without talk.
Remember you may-not always agree, but that can be talked about and a middle road found.
Remember shouting your point across does not make you the winner. Just talk and hear both sides.

Answer 9

Argue like you mean it!

When my wife and I argue, it's hell on earth. But my wife's grandmother once told us that people argue because they care deeply about something. If you don't argue then you don't care and your marriage is doomed!

Sound advice from a wonderful old lady whose marriage lasted almost 50 years.

If you want to avoid arguments then its simple. Don't lie to each other!

Answer 10

I've never been married but my parents had the happiest one I have ever been priviledged to witness. Some things they said were to never take the other for granted, realise that marriage is give and take. Never let the sun go down on your anger and to tell the other that you love them daily.