My girlfriend left for Hawaii to see her family for ten days. I think I might be in a co-dependent relationship with her. I am sick to my stomach and I just can't get her out of my head. We have been together for 8 months and we have fallen in love. I love her daughter and her. They have really gave me more meaning than I could imagine. My big problem is that I don't really have any friends or hobbies. I work full time and go to school part time. Sometimes, I don't know why she stays with me. I'm so boring and uninteresting. There are times where she asks me what's wrong because I have bouts of sadness every once in awhile. The last thing in the world that I want to do is bring her down, but I fear that with my bad childhood, my lack of personal relationships, and my sometimes depressing attitude, I am going to bring her down and she is going to leave. Does this relationship seem co-dependent on my part? Advice? Is what I feel normal?
2007-02-13 10:25:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It could be a co-dependent relationship. You need to find some friends to do things with, or something you really enjoy doing as a hobby. Attaching yourself to someone to the point where you are sick when they are gone is not healthy. You might want to seek counseling if you have bouts of sadness, you could have mild depression. Being depressed could hinder your social abilities, so go talk to someone if you really want to get better. It IS normal to miss her and her daughter. Good luck.
2007-02-13 10:31:59 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf has been gone just over a month expected back anyday now for a few days. I work a full time and a part time job. I pick my mother up from the hospital 3 times a week and am in bed by 11pm every night. I don't go out much with friends. I'm normal just really busy.
2007-02-13 10:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not co-dependent, but you seem to have some dependency or abandonment issues.
Why is that? Missing the approval of a parent? It's OK to miss her, but don't lay into her like she is responsible for your happiness everytime something comes up. I had an ex do that to me, and it drove me into retreat. She was a potential life mate, but that neediness... got to me.
After reading your other posts: you might have a personality disorder that can be dealt with. Look up Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Dependency Personality Disorder and see how much they apply to you.
You need to do some things to get out of your comfort zone. Go places, meet people. Develop personal interests. Something.
2007-02-13 10:30:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Normal.
She'll be back soon, don't worry
Buy a small guitar and a chord book with pictures of the strings with dots on it to show you where to put your fingers for a few chords and try to write her a song! I suggest D,A,G,A. Coming home present =)
Maybe take a chef's course or some kind of hobby course to impress her with! Good luck!
2007-02-13 10:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by ~blessss♫☼ ♪♥ ☼ ♠♫ ♣☺☻ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOUNDS LIKE SHE LIKES YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE TALK TO HER DO NOT HIDE IN THE PAST AND IF SHE CAN NOT HANDLE IT SHE IS NOT FOR YOU. TELL HER EVERYTHING I THINK YOU WILL FIND SHE WILL STILL BE THERE AND LOVE YOU EVEN MORE. YOU WILL ALSO FEEL MUCH BETTER GETTING IT OFF OF YOUR BACK. I HAD THE SAME PROBLEM AND HELD IT IN FOR 34 YEARS AND WHEN I LET IT OUT I FELT SO MUCH BETTER AND IN THE END THE WORLD WAS STILL THERE
2007-02-13 11:05:27 · answer #5 · answered by Brad B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the sake of your dating, locate somebody to chat to approximately this. Use the 10 days that she is long previous, to artwork on your self, so as which you will sense greater ideal. She loves you, and that i comprehend she might assist you.
2016-12-17 15:54:52 · answer #6 · answered by zolinski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound co dependent be patient your wife will be back soon when she gets back go places and you need to go to groups cousling for co dependent people then you can find out if your codependent
2007-02-17 09:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES I THINK IT IS NORMAL BUT U KNOW WHAT THIS IS HOW ME AND MY GIRLFRIEND ARE SOMETIMES AND WE'VE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 4 1/2 MONTHS SO IT KINDA IS CO-INDEPENDENT BUT IT WILL BE OK
2007-02-13 10:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by WWEFanaticfanGOD 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, you seem to know you have issues the next step would be to address those issues...are you trying to run her away? then talk to someone who can help you help yourself...soemthing like this cannot be solved overnight...get started today; get help now!
2007-02-13 10:37:11 · answer #9 · answered by Pooks 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god you sounding urself like you are a loser! where is your self confidence.you need to look world from larger window.stop thinking about yourself and live moment
2007-02-13 10:31:09 · answer #10 · answered by \ 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋