I would be happy to give her 75% of the proceeds, but with her low income, would only be able to afford a £66k home. We have a £250k house just now. I believe I'd have to pay 20% of my income on child support. Is there a website that gives you loads of detail on this stuff. I want to be fair to her, but to myself as well.
2007-02-13 10:18:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you leave your wife and insist the house be sold, where is she supposed to rear your child? Or are you not bothered? You say you'll pay 20% of your income on child support, I wonder what percentage of her income she'll spend on supporting her child?? I think you'll find it's a hell of a lot more than 20%.
Of all the morons we see on here, I think you take the biscuit for sheer selfishness and stupidity. Too bad you're probably representative of most men. Be fair to yourself...??? Give me a break.
2007-02-13 10:28:58 · answer #1 · answered by RM 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it depends on whether you can come to an agreement between you or if not the Courts could decide. I know that I could have remained in my marital home until my child was 18 and then I would have had to sell it and he would have been entitled to a part of the proceeds. Believe me when you take into account all your bills that have to be paid and any mortgage that is owing you may not come away with as much as you think! Child support again is now a different story I think you now have to go to the Child Support Agency and make a claim via them. Although if it can be agreed I think the Court will draw up an order. Everyones case is different. I speak from experience and also from seeing a lot of other people go through the same. Child Support Agency has its own website but if you end up going down that route I wish you good luck its a nightmare.
2007-02-13 18:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by BigMomma2 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You must see a solicitor before doing anything, your figures you have worked out do not add up. For a start I believe the courts can take from you a third of your wages towards maintenance, also you cannot insist the house is sold until the youngest child has finished full time education, and only then if you have kept up all your payments. Plus she can get a certain amount of your pension. If on the other hand she is agreeable to the separation you can work something out together and all will be well. Good luck to you I do know how hard this will be for you, if you have someone else it will be very hard for her and you will both be tested to the limit, but it can be done.
2007-02-13 18:38:20 · answer #3 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you cant sell if the kids are under 19 but also your wife will have to keep up the payments if she is able to ,and you only have to pay maintenance.Im female but I do understand you still have a life so if she can afford to stay there and pay the mortgage good luck to her but if not sell it and split the money 50 / 50.She will not be homeless,and you can both get on with your lives .To much is put onto the man in all this and some woman will think because they have the kids they should get the lot,but in the long term she might meet another man and you would be bankrupt and that is no good for your future relationship with your children.Let her stay there ,pay your maintenence and see how she gets on.Leave it at that for now.
2007-02-13 18:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are living in a dream world if you think that you are getting out of your marriage with anything like 25% of 250k. How about she gets it all and you still have to pay the mortgage and support the kids? That's the way it goes my friend. No justice eh?
2007-02-13 18:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by BARROWMAN 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't know of a web site. But I have divorced in the past. There are usually two choices when there is a home involved. Sell it divide the profit 50/50. Or if either one wants to keep the home they buy the other one out. You need a divorce lawyer. Especially if you have a lot of properties.
2007-02-13 18:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by Janst 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No! If there are children involved you must provide a "roof over their heads" until they either leave school(or full time education).If your wife decides she agrees to sell up and move somewhere cheaper then go for it, but as their father you are responsible to maintain them.Children are not just for Christmas but for life! Sorry to sound hard but you cant just walk away from your responsibilities coz you wish to change your life style, they are not just their mothers responsibilities, but yours too.
2007-02-13 19:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by bevalou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if there is a child involved then you can't insist on selling the house unless you buy them another one. try this website you may find it helps http://www.divorceaid.co.uk/financial/short-term-plan.htm I hate to say it but I expect you have already realised, men are lucky to come out of a divorce with their clothes (ex's usually burn them, cut them up). Good luck any way I hope you come to a amicable agreement.
2007-02-13 18:23:38 · answer #8 · answered by gina 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
sorry you can not insist on the house being sold as there is children involved in the divorce. I do think that you are being a tad selfish. You have got to maintain a secure home for your children as they are involved in this as well not just you and your wife.
2007-02-13 18:25:30 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
you might find this link some help,
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divorce
There are plenty of different questions which you might want ask, i am sure you will find the answers through that link..
Good luck you sound a sensible man, and i hope you sort it out with minimal upset!!
2007-02-13 18:29:00 · answer #10 · answered by anney 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋