My husband & I have only been together a few years and ever since we got together I've known he hasn't had a big libido and I've had to live with that. I'm the only one that initiates sex and that was fine with me. I'm now 8 months pregnant and was extremely sick for the first 3 months. Naturally, my husband was a saint and looked after me very well. When I started to get better I thought we should start the sex up again and he said that he got so used to it when I was sick that it didn't bother him. We've only had sex once in the past 8 months and he assures me he's not worried about hurting me or the baby, it's just that sex doesn't preoccupy him. We talk about it a lot and he enjoys the simple things like kissing and hugging and snuggling. He's not an overly sexual person, and I'd like to hear from other guys that don't seem to fit the stereotypical mould of always wanting sex from their wives! Reasons? (And don't say he's GAY!)
2007-02-13 10:17:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband is very similar to your description. We've been together for 2+ years, and don't have sex more than like 1x/month (sometimes less, it depends). He's never been sexually oriented; we spend a lot of time together and have a very good relationship, but sex is rarely on our minds. It was recommended to me by a doctor that he gets his testosterone levels checked - low testosterone can lead to low libido in men, and can cause other health problems. Apparently, it's just a blood test, and it is a treatable condition. You might want to suggest your husband take a trip to the doctor - he doesn't have much to lose except a little bit of blood. I personally don't have a problem with my partner's low libido, as I have a very low drive myself; but I imagine it can really put a dent in a relationship if the partners' needs are too different. By all means, you both should talk to a medical professional.
2007-02-13 10:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my wife pregnant a year ago with our twin daughters, I lost all interest in having sex with her once she started getting really big. For some reason I felt this need to take care of her and comfort her instead of banging her brains out like we used to do! It would frustrate her because she was ALL for having sex, and I was just not turned on by the idea of having sex while she was pregnant with our daughters. Maybe I should have taken advatnage because since our girls were born, I can count on one hand the number of times we've had sex! Maybe if our sex life was average then this wouldn't be a big deal. But we had a VERY colorful sex life before we became parents. Not a whole lot we didn't do! TRUST ME on that! But now I just don't know. As far as your situation is concerned, if your husband wasn't really into sex before, it shouldn't be any big surprise that he isn't now! Some guys just aren't into sex all that much. My wife however, didn't marry a guy that falls into that category!!!!!
2007-02-13 18:25:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was married...
I didn't care much about sex either. If my wife didn't want it, I wouldn't pressure her. I never really was that concerned about sex though, even before marriage. So yes, Virginia, guys with low libido do exist.
After marriage...
Still not really concerned. I'm actually less concerned because I am still fairly bitter, and don't feel I can trust women that much anymore.
I guess recognizing my bitterness is...
Wait a minute, this isn't therapy!
2007-02-13 18:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by Travis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you eight 400 pounds you might make yourself just a tad more pleasing to his sight by losing two hundred pounds and more but if you are a hottie? Then go buy him the kama sutra book for valentines day and together every evening before he gets tooooo tired you both read and study and try each page on for size. remember it's every evening! And tell him he has no choice in the matter
2007-02-13 18:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur Richards of Kent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way. Dont want that much sex from the wife... Now from the girlfriend, that's another story. I could ride her awesome body till I pass out from lack of oxygen, in public... oh my!
2007-02-13 19:17:03 · answer #5 · answered by slick_pavement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, if you don't start having SEX WITH YOUR WIFE, YOU CAN BET THAT YOUR MARRAGE WON'T LAST, & SHE WILL FIND SOMEONE THAT WANTS SEX AS MUCH AS SHE DOES !!!!
I can't say as I blame her
Why don't you want sex ? Did you have an upbringing where sex was not mentioned, or thought of as being DIRTY ?
You better change your ways, or you will find yourself PAYING CHILD-SUPPORT !!!!
2007-02-13 18:49:11 · answer #6 · answered by dallan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about him, but when my wife was expecting, we were going at it every night and sometime in the afternoon...no worries at all since she was already preggo.
2007-02-13 18:21:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well 8 months is longgggggggg i think he needsto see a specialist good luck for your delivery..
2007-02-13 18:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by kitycat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm you, my wife is him. 8 months? Thats a long time......
2007-02-13 18:22:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is he attracted to? What are his likes / dislikes?
2007-02-13 19:12:11 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋