yeah, she said she didn't want to be my mother anymore because i was not appreciative of her. we never live together for many years and i never enjoyed living at her home when young child. i was raised by my grandparents but they are dead now. Now my only living relative disowned me....
should I just ignore her and live my life ?
or beg for her forgiveness ?
2007-02-13 10:10:01 · 16 answers · asked by 21 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
this is the 3rd time, that i'm able to recall, of her disowning me. I'm married & inherited my grandparents home.
2007-02-13 10:20:16 · update #1
Oh sweetheart ,
yeah we are all crazy at times, not just you !
thank God my parents didn't disown me for being crazy or I would have thought them unfit parents.
This is about parent and child.
Parent has no right to disown a child.
Abandoned children, aborted children, their parents gave up their rights
2007-02-13 10:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by Dream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is tough and painful for you. Ask yourself: why did I need to live with my grandparents and not my mother? Why did I not enjoy living with her? That may give you insight into your real feelings and your relationship with your mother. The painful truth MAY be that she never did want to be your mother. This always will be felt as a loss in your life, but, there is nothing you can do about it. If you received love from your grandparents, then you were fortunate. If you did not do anything that truly is "crazy", you must not put yourself into an ongoing situation where you will be sabotaged. You can decide that you will live your life in a better way than your mother's. I have known a number of people who made that decision and have built good characters which benefitted not only themselves but other people as well. It is an important lesson to learn: don't cling to someone who is not good for you just because, at the moment, you don't have anyone else. A good friend can become the best "family"! I wish you well with your life.
2007-02-13 18:24:19 · answer #2 · answered by jom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your mother was never a mother to begin with for she needs to do some growing up for you can't disown someone that you never really know to begin with.Also you have your own life with your husband so don't worry about your mother and just live your life and let her be for she'll come around and if she doesn't then just move on and let her learn how to grow up and what being a mother is all about for it's not about disowning your own child.
2007-02-13 18:36:03 · answer #3 · answered by outlawprincess5321 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geeeeeeeeeee that is sad. Think of it this way.......she doesn't know how to be a mother.
You don't have any control over your mother or her actions.You only have control over how you react to her. I have a feeling that she didn't totally mean it. Give her time to cool off.
She will never meet the expetations of what you think a mother will be. If you want her to be in your life, you need to expect that she will be hard to get along with. Let her fits roll off your back.
Best thing to do is to NOT react to her. She will eventually learn that you don't buy in to her games. If she calls you crazy..don't react because YOU know you arn't crazy. Don't give her that power to upset you.
If she is hard to be around, then limit your time with her. Maybe you can only spend an hour or two with her. Have ways to difuse the things that usually set her off. Maybe only see her in public to avoid too much personal stuff.
Meet her for lunch and if she starts in on you, give her a quick kiss on her cheek and in a nice way say. "mom, I love you, but I can't get in to this stuff now, bye, I will talk to you tomorrow"
Good luck
2007-02-13 18:21:41 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Beg for forgiveness. Shes your mother no matter what and your only living relative...however if she gives you up like this fast she might not have what it takes to be a mom.
2007-02-13 18:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't beg. Maybe you should try to become friends first. You really haven't lived with her and you don't really know a person until you 've lived together. (you MUST compromise)
If you really love each other then it's worth all the effort. Take it day by day - friendship and love take time as ALL good things.
Keep trying and good luck!
2007-02-13 18:28:09 · answer #6 · answered by Only Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me, I would stay disowned. You are grown up now. One day she will regret her words. Till then, do your own thing.
2007-02-13 18:29:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd find somewhere in the middle. i'd try to calmly talk to her and let her know that even though you don't get along, you don't want to lose her completely. see if you can find a way to see each other in a good situation once in a while.
2007-02-13 18:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Beg for her forgiveness and try to live a better life. Family comes first.
2007-02-13 18:13:40 · answer #9 · answered by tewarienormy 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
sad! probably words in the moment only...think of it that way, ok?
perhaps she needs you to be a grown up instead of a child...something like that. try to start fresh with her. one day at a time. peace
2007-02-13 18:18:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋