I'm 8 months pregnant and we broke up 2 weeks ago. He moved out of state to take a job with his DADDY...I have been out buying baby clothes and spending money that I really need to save. I hang out with the girls and family but My mind always drifts back to him. 7 years of memories always flood my brain. He broke up with me because he says we fight too much and I really do want him back but I will not let him now because he has hurt me so much...What else could I do to occupy my time?
2007-02-13 10:04:10 · 8 answers · asked by angelsdeath420 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why are people so mean sometimes on this board??? It really pisses me off because everyone is just asking for some FRIENDLY advice....sheesh.
2007-02-13 10:12:02 · update #1
I'm really sorry you are going through all that. This should be the happiest time of your life. It is good you are getting out with family and friends. You have a lot of time invested in this relationship and it is going to be difficult for a while. You are out spending money because it gives you something to do and there is certain "high" people get from spending money. You will need stuff for the baby regardless but you need to plan. (but you already know that).
As far as something to do, do you have any hobbies or things that you are interested in that you can do in your off time? Do you like crafts? You could make something for your baby. Crochet or knit a blanket or maybe cross stitch a picture with your babies name on it and when he or she is born you could add the date, weight, etc? Take child birth classes, you will need to have someone in with you, maybe a friend or family member could go with you. How about getting your baby book together or working on geneology for the baby? This is the best time to concentrate on family. Talk with your parents and grandparents about your family history and someday you will be able to relay it to the him or her.
If he does decide to come back, you are right, you can't crawl after him, it won't help matters. It will only make you feel weak and needy, which you don't need. Think long and hard before you let him come back. You already invested 7 years in this. Do you want to be going through this after the baby is born or in three or four years when he decides to bolt again?
I wish you and your baby the best. I hope your baby is healthy and happy. God bless you. (sorry if there are any typos, the spell check isn't working).
2007-02-13 10:41:01 · answer #1 · answered by Elizabeth P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh i am sorry hun. I feel ur pain. I am 7 months pregnant and split with my bf 3 months ago. Its hard being alone and even harder when u have your emotions going wild along with your hormones.
But u know.....I keep telling myself that i cant change this by myself. I find peace in saying the little prayer when i am feeling weak and low.
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the strength to change the things I can,
and the Wisdom to know the difference."
You are doing what u should in order to keep your mind occupied. Time allows it to get easier, and focusing on the miracle that is growing inside u is the important thing.
I keep telling myself, that if its meant to be, it will be.
I am not saying he will change his mind and make a life with u, but I will say that sometimes a child can make u feel things u never thought u would. He may realize what he has lost once the baby gets here.
I hope for your sake he does. Good luck hun.
2007-02-13 10:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right not to let him back. Tell him if he calls that he needs to get his own life straightened out. Your child will need strong supportive parents. Your child will need security and love and attention and your fiance has proven that he can't or won't provide it right now. You need to focus on giving birth and the time afterwards, you have to write off your fiance for now. Get help from as many as you can, family, friends, everyone. When things are calmer later, you might get a chance to stop and evaluate your fiance and that situation. My feeling is that there is a deep level of hell a man belongs in who would leave his woman in the 8th month of pregnancy, and he deserves to be there. Take care.
2007-02-13 10:24:20 · answer #3 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on the upcoming birth of your child. That baby should be your biggest conern right now. Get support from your friends and family and make sure you job is steady. As far as the father is concerned, make sure you nail him for child support. He's a rat for leaving a woman who's 8 months pregnant. Don't take him back unless he proves himself to be trustworthy. But if he wants a relationship with his child, don't deny him that. I wish you the best. Many blessings.
2007-02-13 10:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure he ll come back give it a try & make the first step then believe only what is best will happen have faith in God & trust..
best of luck dear
2007-02-13 10:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by kitycat 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i do think he will come back to u, after all he will want to see his baby. sometimes we don't let them in on whats going on because they have hurt us, guess its our way to protect ourselves. just keep hanging out with friends, he will be back, just use this time to rethink things, and decide what is important to u.
2007-02-13 10:11:50 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
eat a lot of ice cream, and keep going out with your friends, who knows maybe you'll stumble across someone who you won't fight as much with....
2007-02-13 10:07:56 · answer #7 · answered by Leannedrufy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You deserve what you got. if your were of moral character, then this would never happen. Thats the result when you think with your ******* and not your brains.
2007-02-13 10:09:24 · answer #8 · answered by tewarienormy 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋