why people fall in love?

Question

some people fall in love and get married ,others separate,some love failures commit sucides or kills one another,even in arranged marriages same problems occur,tell me your views and opinions about this matter,be serious please,thanks in advance.

Answer 1

Love is non-existent. Don't screw yourself over by falling into it.

Answer 2

Love is a lie you tell yourself.

How good of a liar are you?

When you "fall in love," you create an idealized mental persona of the target of your affections and then superimpose it on top of that person's actual persona. Whenever they do or say things that would otherwise get on your nerves or make you angry, the facade acts as a buffer, and softens the impact.

Unfortunately, the buffer can only withstand so much, though, and it varies from person to person how long it lasts. When it starts to fracture, things begin to get bad, and the "rocky path to breakup/divorce" begins. Almost all of the time, it happens to one partner, and they begin to react. The acts that were once acceptable now garner vehemence and resentment. This is "falling out of love."

Since the partners are a both invested in the relationship, the turbulence is felt by the other partner. Sometimes it's enough to clue the other partner in, most of the time, it's not. This is where cheating, and other destructive behavior ramp up. Eventually, either the disillusioned partner gives up, or manages to shatter their other partner's illusions. This is when the relationship releases it's death rattle, and all that is left is two people feeling betrayed by the other.

This happens at different times for different people. Sometimes the persona isn't dispelled until after one partner leaves or does something else equally drastic. Also, some people deal with the perceived betrayal differently. This is illustrated by the outcomes you mentioned.

Answer 3

Love, is a connection between two people of some sort. I think there are different levels of love in terms of couples. See, sometimes that lustful love sort of clouds the mind, and makes people over look some of the early problems in a relationship. When the lust is gone, then the problems come out. So I would say be on guard for this.

Real true love, is a connection between two people. It's a time when you have accepted that you will do anything for that person, i.e. save their life, take care of them when they are sick, because your care for this person is more than skin deep, its spiritual. You basically feel that no matter what happens, even if things get ugly later down the road, you commit to do anything necessary to take care of that person, emotionally, physically, spritually, because their happiness is the most important thing to you. Its a willingness to put someone else before yourself because you find things in that person that you value more than yourself. This is why people fall in love.

Answer 4

People fall in love because they saw perfection in each other,then as time past by they become common ,they losed the sparks or specialness to each other due to life pressure or they out grow each other.It might help.. To be friend your lover/spouse.My late husband was 20 years older than me,and I have more than 18 years of great friendship laughters,jokes,romance,and great loving from him until he passed away. My opinion is to look for a person with the same values and both of you are looking on the same direction, age does not matter ,this is not guaranteed, but it might work "" Til death do us part"". who knows...

Answer 5

People fall in love because love is a natural and wonderful human emotion. Some people divorce or separate because of unrealistic expectations put on their partner. Some people commit suicide because of a lack of their own identity and are looking to someone else to "fill the void" or make them happy. When this fails, the "failure" can seem to make a person insane and do insane things.

Answer 6

Love is part and parcel of life. It is not the end result but the process of being in love. Do not dwell too much on the ending but enjoy all the happy moments and keep them in your memory for many years to come. Death occurs to everyone and only memories you can bring to the coffin. You can't bring the one you loved with you right? Think about it.

Answer 7

WHY???So many reasons... you think the other person feels the same, this person is nice to you, it is a beautiful feeling and painful too. Love comes from the hearth, we all have one and some of us are too soft, other hard when two of these get together there always hurt. If you get in love, make sure before is too late the other person is too.

Answer 8

Simply this: The first thing attracting any human to another is ALWAYS sensual.

When we first meet another human, we mentally register what we see, hear, or smell and instantly find ourselves attracted, neutral, or repulsed by that person. Since each of us is unique in our tastes, what one person finds alluring, another may find repelling, and another may not register as worthy of notice at all.

How does what we find physically attractive affect our “falling” in love? The chances of developing or maintaining love decrease proportionately with the degree of unattractiveness we perceive in another. For example, if you perceive a person as very unattractive, you likely aren’t going to be open to pursuing a relationship unless there is something else attracting you more strongly than their appearance is repelling you. That just makes sense doesn’t it?

When we were single, we accepted that truth. We kept our bodies trim, carefully coifed our hair, and wore only the most fashionable clothes. We knew that the people we met would immediately react either positively or negatively to our fragrance, voice, and appearance. We kept ourselves as attractive to the opposite sex as possible.
So why should it be any different after marriage?

So why should it be any different after marriage?
A very common complaint we hear from both husbands and wives is the loss of their desire for a spouse who has forgotten the lure of the sensual. As one man said, “My wife is a beautiful woman when she wants to be. But she seems more focused on enjoying rich foods than being attractive to me. When I say anything about it, she just cries and tells me I don’t love her. I’ve learned to live with the fact that my wife will never be beautiful again because she doesn’t care to be. I guess I’m not as important to her as chocolate cake.”

I understand his dilemma. I’ve heard people reject loudly the idea that they should continue to be attractive to their spouses. When I probe their anger, I usually discover that the person objecting doesn’t feel attractive any more because of aging or some other factor. Because of that negative personal perception, he or she wants the mate to no longer be affected by physical attractiveness. They say things like, “A spiritual person wouldn’t care what I looked like!”

Answer 9

people fall in love everyday, They love the way that person
makes them feel. But staying in love takes lot of work.
All marriages have problems, money is big problem for
most. Or they fall in love with someone else.
If you love that person you are with you do anything
to keep them happy and safe.

Answer 10

there are all sorts of reasons people fall in love as everyone is different and have different things that trip their trigger
I think the best love is to fall in love with a person for who they are inside as a person, have them be your best friend along with it...now that makes for a forever relationship
It all boils down to what a person is as a person
inside
but different people look for different things or like (love) different things
maybe that is where "variety is the spice of life" came from
who knows why people fall in love...I can only speak for one person and that is me
Maybe you will get a lot of answers and can combine them all together to get one solid answer

Answer 11

I really don't know why people fall in love. But I think it is because they want to feel safe with someone else. To have hope and reassurance. To just be able to believe in love, and that there is such a thing as love. To me you would be a fool not to fall in love.