Okay my mom and dad got divorced before i was 3 years old and now that i am 13 i have a choice to go with my mom or dad.Right now i live with my mom.My mom gets on my nerves and dus not understand me.So i want to live with my dad but everybody on my moms side of the family says he is a bad guy but i know that isn't true.So what should i do to tell my mom that ive made up my mind to live with my dad?
2007-02-13 09:51:24 · 10 answers · asked by Sam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why don't you spend the school year with your mother and the rest of the year with your dad. Are you sure he wants you to live with him? Fathers have a hard time taking care of daughters usually.
2007-02-13 09:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think, and this comes from personal experiance that as a teen girl it is best to live with the same sex parent even when you don't always get along you don't want to just dump your mom like that and im alittle older than you but still a teen and have had to make this disicon before, maybe you should ask more to your family like why they think he is a bad guy, and think about it, who is more trustworthy you family or your dad? well its up to you just if you religous pray or if not think for a while and definitly ask questions.
2007-02-13 18:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by cami 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your father about it. Ideally, you could start moving your clothes and small possessions to his place. If you just sit down and tell her, she might freak out and not let you take some of things that are yours. So get as much stuff as you can at your father's place, and then on the right day, have your Dad come by in a car and wait outside. Sit down with your Mom, and tell her that you love her very much, but that you think you'll be better off with your father, so you are going to live with him, and you are leaving in five minutes. She might be mad at you, or feel rejected, or just cry. Tell her you love her, console her, tell her you'll still come by, but make sure you leave within five minutes.
If you tell her one day, but don't leave for a couple of days, she might guilt trip you, yell at you about how she did so much, tried so hard, ask why don't you love her, what did she do to deserve this, on and on - you don't need that.
Good luck.
2007-02-13 18:03:58 · answer #3 · answered by G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off I do NOT agree with jgf's answer.
It appears you're going through the selfish stage in your life where you want everything your way, 'mom gets on my nerves' = mom has rules that I don't want to follow.
My daughter is starting the same behavior at 11 years old. She'll say she wants to live with her dad, but after she's gotten over not getting her way about something she'll say she wouldn't like to live with him.
Dad = the parent with no rules. When my daughter is at his home she does WHATEVER she wants and sorry, but that's not the way of life. She stays up until 2am on the computer while his girlfriend and he are asleep in their bed. She watches shows on tv she knows I do not allow her to watch.
Sorry, but kids need rules .... also known as .... moms that get on kid's nerves.
Do NOT and I emphasize on this, do NOT slowly sneak out of the house on your mother as jgf posted. That is NOT the way! And IF your mother were to guilt trip you that's HER given right as your mother, providing for you for the past 13 years and given up part of her life to take care of yours.
Unless your mother is abusing you, you need to stay put! Visit with your dad on weekends or maybe over summer break, but leaving your mom for the reasons you've stated are immature and selfish.
2007-02-13 18:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by whatchagonnado 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This should NOT be YOUR choice to make. You're only 13 years old. Naturally you're going to want to live with whoever will let you get away with the most. So my advice is to do the exact OPPOSITE of what you want to do. Chances are it's the best thing for you!
2007-02-13 18:00:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you would like to get to know your dad better. Are they close enough where you can go back and forth every other week?
2007-02-13 17:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by Jo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk with your dad and together come up with a plan to talk with her. Good Luck.
2007-02-17 16:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is are you looking for strong parenting with love or are you looking for the more lenient parent so you can basically do what you want?
2007-02-13 17:56:52 · answer #8 · answered by daisy2good2001 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not spend a summer with your father and then decide...
2007-02-13 17:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take turns with them
2007-02-17 17:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋