I was speaking to a girl online who's name was sillykimmie. I had previously wrote a question, i put in it i recently got married and my family has said that i need to be home cooking and cleaning and making sure my house and my husband is satisfied. I do cook and clean and also work and take care of the children. I stated in the question that my husband and i do everything 50/50, and people wrote back great keep it up it should be that way. but sillykimmie wrote me back saying that basically a womens place is in the "KITCHEN"!!!!!, I dont believe that because my husband and i both share everything because a marriage should be about the two of you not ONE.
I wanted to know how many women are really WOMEN, not maids in the relationship. So please tell me if sillykimmie is RIGHT, OR do you agree with me and WHY? THANK YOU
2007-02-13 09:39:13 · 18 answers · asked by princess_shawnita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she's naked she is already barefooted... kind of redundant...
2007-02-13 09:42:19 · answer #1 · answered by Kiowa1 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have no problem taking over the kitchen and some of the house-chores completely. What am I gonna do - demand that my husband cooks 3.5 nights a week? I like to cook, he doesn't - hell yeah I will cook for him, why not? He's not very good at remembering to fill up the cat food and water; sure, I can take over that. He can't stand doing laundry - I don't mind, I will do the laundry, no big deal. He leaves dirty dishes in the sink - I don't care, I can clean it up, it's easy! Seriously. I want him to apply himself in the areas where he really shines - he's a great handyman, and can fix just about anything; he likes working on home improvement projects; he enjoys tinkering with computers, touchpanels, and the home theatre; last but not least, he brings home a 6-figure salary, pays the mortgage and the bills, and works weekends if he has to. I think, my job around the kitchen is EASY. I don't feel like a "maid" at all - in our family, it's a matter of figuring out who is best at what, and dishing out responsibilities accordingly. At the end, it breaks down to be 50/50, and we're both happy with it!
2007-02-13 10:02:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This idea is from a different era!! This comes from the idea of the man working and providing for the home and the women did not work and manage the home. Please don't get me wrong there are woman that still have this type of arrangment. Their husbands make enough money to provide for there family with out the other wives working and they manage the home. If both spouses work than both have to share with the responsibility of caring for the home and the children. But please don't stated that women who have decided to stay at home and care for there family does not make them maids!! Managing the home is the most important work that is done!
2007-02-13 09:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by sexychocolatecity21 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if you believe in God then your place is helping your husband outside or inside the house . God said a woman is a mans help meat and yes meat not mate . what ever makes marriage easy and stronger for the two of you then that's what you should be doing . Maybe it makes that mans job easy if his wife is in the kitchen where as it makes your mans job easy if you are out making money.
when you got married there is no 50/50 anymore you became 1
2007-02-13 10:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Really, from a guy's point of view, the best way to keep us happy is through our stomach's and our pants. BUT, it should work both ways. He shoud do things that make you happy too. If it pleases him to watch you vacume the house naked while eating a great meal you prepared for him, he should come home from washing your car with a box of chocolates and flowers. Love is a two way street. Take care of eachother.
2007-02-14 09:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by Peter F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope...no more than a guy's place in the house is to be a naked stud designed to service his woman. Unfortunately, this antiquated thinking is all too prevalent within many societies, and the increased incidence of spousal abuse reflects that reality.
Many societies still dismiss a woman's intelligence and focus solely upon her physical attributes and "service" capabilities. That needs to change and we, as young intelligent women, need to actively encourage that modernization of thought.
Yes, we can be naked in the house...because it's FUN and it's because we want to...not because we're expected to be!
2007-02-16 03:22:53 · answer #6 · answered by nudie chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's barefoot and pregnant LOL :) and the answer is no. I work from home now because I chose to be home with my kids while they are young. I plan to go back to work once they are all in school. My husband does a lot of the cooking because he likes to and while I do most of the heavy duty cleaning, everyone in the house has their own chore list to follow. Whether or not you stay home with your kids is a personal choice. you need to decide what is best for your situation. Sillykimmie should mind her own business and stop judging people. You keep doin what your doin :).
2007-02-13 09:53:26 · answer #7 · answered by Ducky 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i believe marriage should be 50/50. But there are some men who wishes a housewife and if both is in agreement, so be it. But being totally depended on a man can cause a woman to lose sight of her own independence. If he wants me in the Kitchen, he will join me there in assisting. I believe marriage is a partnership, in the Kitchen, in cleaning, in caring for the kids and every other aspects. If a Kitchen woman's mate dies, and all she knew was being a housewife, she will be totally be unprepared to stand on her own two feet. I believe we should be our husband's helpmate and vice versa.
2007-02-13 10:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by thrillseeker 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I clean the house naked.. I do alot of other things naked too. I have sex naked blive it or not. I golf naked and I go to my ball room dancing classes with my wang out... and it sure is cold out
2016-05-24 06:45:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you and your husband can answer that,For along time my wife didnt work because i didnt want her to .Later on she started working because she was tired of being home all the time.I supported her in what ever she wanted to do.I feel a womans place is in the home but not to just be a maid.When i married her it was to take care of her.I feel the man should be the one to work and take care of the family.If she works im ok with it,if she dont work im ok with that also.
2007-02-13 09:57:20 · answer #10 · answered by lawson403 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no i do not agree with sillykimmie becuz a believe a relationship should b 50/50....most girls cannot cook so therefore they should not be allowed in the kitchen, unless u want ur house to burn down.
2007-02-13 09:49:22 · answer #11 · answered by annawuvzchris 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋