2007-02-13 09:18:44 · 29 answers · asked by Mrs.T.W.I 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You two should go to marriage counseling together. Ask your church leader or your doctor for a referral.
2007-02-13 09:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by cg17 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm sorry if that is true, but I suggest you make an appointment with him for Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday and he can have the other days with the laptop? Anyway a good sit down conversation would be nice and air out the differences. There is an underlying issue here to be addressed. Men love to be loved and have sex. In fact each day several times a day they think of it. So start asking questions and talk it thr.
2007-02-13 17:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by oldone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"If you can't beat them, join them." Show some interest in what he is doing on the laptop. Ask about the programs, or games he likes to play, or whatever he is doing on there.
Or suggests some ways for the two of you to spend time together when he turns the power buttom on (i.e., honey let's watch a movie together or go take a walk around the block).
If you have to compete with a laptop for an extended period of time (months), then you might want to seek marital counseling.
2007-02-13 17:33:26 · answer #3 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell your husband his computer use is getting in the way of your relationship. Nothing should ever come between husband and wife. If something is, and the spouse won't change, try counseling, if that doesn't work, find someone who will devote themselves to you 100%.
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2007-02-13 17:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by Adam H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HUM, what is he up to as to why would it be more fun then you??? Let him know how you feel about it or you just deal with it.....Maybe you need to suggest to him a compromise as you would with a CHILD and say we need to put a time limit on your laptop because I feel were wasting our time not being together and I miss you and spending time with you. Then you should come up with so fun exciting and romantic things to do to get the sparks going again......
2007-02-13 17:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, the excitment in your marriage is gone. Try to find a way to spice things up a bit. Try to distract him from his computer and aim the attention to yourself. If you can't do that, then you have to spell it out for him. Men are a little slower then woman and don't take well to hints whether it be small hints or obvious hints. If you don't tell them that something is wrong, they will never know it. Have a talk and bring up some ideas of what you can do to spice things up. And listen to his ideas to add a little spice too.
2007-02-13 17:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have a serious talk. If he just got a laptop, they can be addicting. Let him know in no uncertain terms that you come befor the laptop. If he continues, just cut him off once when he wants some...he'll get the message.
2007-02-13 17:22:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK... if this is my wife... most of these answers will work. BUT... once again I CANNOT read your mind, even if you can read mine. You MUST spell it out for me. (PLAY WITH ME FOR AWHILE... NOT THE COMPUTER)
On the other hand, take a look at yourself too. Why does he find the computer more interesting???
Counseling is not the answer, unless you've talked about this numerous times and he still fails to respond. (Or the naked thing doesn't work)
2007-02-13 17:24:43 · answer #8 · answered by qfrasier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband isn't hooked on computers,if he where I don't think we would have made it to where we are today. So many people put the computer in one form or the other as top priorities in their lives. It becomes a compulsion.
If you see your situation as such, talk with your hubby about it and get him to seek counseling if that is necessary.
I have seen this happen to one of my adult sons with gaming. He has a family. They get neglected by Dad, and the memories when he is old, of days on the computer, won't be near as precious to his boys, as days spent with dear old Dad would have been. How very sad is that ??
2007-02-13 17:48:33 · answer #9 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Act real needy instead of finding something that interests you to do. That always works if you want to get a divorce.
You gotta know when to back off. Some women can't. I don't know why.
Trust me, if you want to get his attention, become more interesting by developing your interests. Start acting clingy, and he's gonna start to feel like you need to be coddled like a child.
2007-02-13 17:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find yourself a male friend who wants to play with you, so you have someone to pass the time away with, or trade in your husband for a newer more exciting model.......
2007-02-13 17:22:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋