My ex husband and I share custody of our two children (13 and 10) on an every other week rotation. Ex husband won't speak to me. Now has fiance (whom I have never met) answering on his email address on matters concerning the children. I don't feel he is co-parenting. He is not following the guidelines of the agreement in terms of time spent with the children, does not notify me when he is out of town leaving the kids with his mom. What can I do now that the divorce is already final?
2007-02-13 09:18:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nothing. Not to be rude, but it is none of your business what he is doing with the children when he has them. Also, he does not have to speak with you about anything, or tell you what his plans are with the children. You have the children when you have them, and he has them when he does. How that time is spent is not really your business.
Also, it isn't required that one parent meet the other parent's new wife/ GF. The only thing that connects you two is the children.
I hardly ever see my ex. When I have the children, I pick them up from daycare, and return them to daycare. We see each other at TBall, and other events, but do not really talk to each other. That is why we aren't married anymore. It is better that way.
You should just enjoy the children when you have them, and stay out of his business.
2007-02-13 09:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can file for Modifications to the Original Visitation and/or Custody based on a Change of Circumstances. Most courts look for extreme change of circumstances, change of job, location, more free time, abuse, ex-spouse not abiding by the Order of custody and Visitation. If he is not abiding by the Visitation Order and dropiing kids of, is this only temporary due to wok is not great grounds for change in circumstances. Since the children are with their grandparents this is better than with a sitter or fiance' - do the children get along with her? Are the children having troubles in school. Only an attorney can tell you what equates to a change of circumstances in each state if you don't know. The web is an essential source of information for cases in your own locale to search for particulars that match your issues at present that can give you a guidline if you feel ytou want to change things. Remember, once divorced, Visitation and Custody are never written in stone and can change depending on the circumstances. You can go it alone, uit is VERY difficult if you don't know the process - as it sounds with you...or you can do a sit down diuscussion initially with an attorney that will do consultation first time for free. Then decide. First and foremeost....is this something you are upset about personally and feeling threatened by or is it you are really concerned for the well being of the children. If it is only your motherly instincts feeling threatened and you are looking for a way to get the children away from the fiance' and possible upcoming marriage, it is not something the court will look at. It is good that the fiance' is working with you and involved with the childrens interest and covering your husband's back while he is gone. Thats shows good parental involvement on her part - yet I don't know the woman to know for certain. Obviously someone is trying. The HARD question you have to ask, "Are you looking for trouble where there is none?" or "Is there real concern for the well being of your children - even with another woman?"
2007-02-13 09:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by RealEYES 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless the kids are either being abused or in a hostile environment in the above then there probably isnt much that will be accomplished by taking him back to court as you really havent got much. From experience what Im reading is youre accusing your ex of not playing fair. Not a good enough reason for a judge to modify your custody/visitation order, sorry. You basically have to prove your ex as unfit for his rights to be changed. The courts give you a general guideline to follow but sometimes a divorced couple with children have to work out the fine details. So unless you can prove the kids are being abused or are in extreme danger, you really have nothing for the courts to get involved with. Also your kids are old enough to refuse to go on visits if they wish or dont like the circumstances. Now if hes behind on support payments then you have something to work with.
2007-02-13 09:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop whining,
When a parent has a custody period it is their rules short of out and out abuse.
What is more important is for your children to understand that their Father and Mother has authority over them. Don't undermine that authority. It is defiantly NOT co-parenting either and it presents a far bigger danger to your children then fiance or mom ever will.
2007-02-13 09:27:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
in case your modern custody papers do not specially say you may not pass then you may pass now. that's all about if that's in the papers or no longer. If the papers say you may not pass then you ought to pass to court docket yet actual i visit't see why the choose might want to deny the pass if what your putting forward is precise. God bless you for being a sturdy father.
2016-11-03 09:09:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to an attorney. I would not talk to the girlfriend.
2007-02-13 09:23:01 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle M 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋