2007-02-13 09:06:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
SHOULD I CONFRONT HIM ABOUT IT, OR JUST LET HIM?
2007-02-13 09:28:04 · update #1
he mimght b trying to pick up moves on the side so he can please u even move....most guys watch porn to pick up tricks on the side and the other half watch it becuz der lover aint giving them some so they get it 4rm their hand.
2007-02-13 09:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by annawuvzchris 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie, if he is looking at porn now, it didn't start after you had the baby. You just caught him this time. Men naturally like porn and enjoy it. It's not that big of a deal and doesn't put you any lower. It's just a visual aid and no matter how much they are getting at home, they are still going to do. If it is not excessive, it is no big deal. Just let it slid because I will guarantee, it didn't just start now. My husband looks at it too. Oh well. Men will be men and the more you push for it to stop, the worse it will get
2007-02-13 18:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
men do this because they are visual, and to be honest, I hate it too, but the man in my life does the same things, has a lot of porn and crap, and I used to let it bother me, but you know what, if he gets tired of me, I will move on, and he can have his porn. You need to confront him, ask him why he does this, and how it makes you feel, let him make the next move, and explain these things. One thing, don't let it take your confidence away, because it can. Remember you are beautiful and you are going to give life, those women have probably not had children, are airbrushed and probably into drugs and do not lead great lives. When it got me down, and made me feel insecure there was always another man around that was a friend or whatever that would compliment me, smile at me or tell me I was beautiful or hot or whatever and make me feel better. He doesn't do it to hurt you, he does it because he is a man. you are beautiful and he loves you, what can you expect from such a simple life form ((men))
2007-02-13 17:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he wasn't satisfied and didn't want to disturb you since he thought you were asleep.
Lots of guys look at porn, so do women, sometimes it gives you ideas that you hadn't thought of before and can actually improve your sex life. Ask him if he saw anything on there that he wants to try with you the next time you have sex.
2007-02-13 17:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by curiousnktown 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This has become a very common problem since households began to get computers. For some reason, men are just naturally attracted to porn. Alot of them are addicted to it now since it's so easy to see on the net.
I would recommend having a talk with him about it. But keep yourself and your voice calm, no matter how upset you might feel inside. Don't get hysterical, yell at him, or act real accusing. Just tell him that you know he's been looking at porn, that you realize it's a natural thing for men to do, but tell him that you're concerned he might become addicted to it.
Insist on sitting beside him on the computer and have him show you some of the sites he's been looking at. Tell him you want to see what part of his fascination is. Ask him what he's hoping to achieve in looking at it - is he trying to come up with new ideas to try with you, is he just needing more stimulation, etc. Ask him how he would feel if his family, friends, and co-workers knew about it, would he be ashamed.
Then try to work out some type of compromise about it. Tell him you'll agree to him looking at it for a set amount of time every day/week, but that you want him to be honest about it and not try to hide it or keep it a secret from you. Hopefuly he'll talk honestly with you about it.
Good Luck!
2007-02-13 21:42:47 · answer #5 · answered by Ruby V 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh boy!!! Yeah, my wife had this problem with her first. He used to do it while she was beast feeding her son. Right next to the bed??!!! Might want to think about getting him some help. My wife's first refused. So, she split. He's a sicko anyway. I have no use for the porn. Hell, I'm just happy to be 37 and married to a hot woman 9 yrs younger. She loves to do it all the time!!!!! :) LMFAO!!!
2007-02-13 17:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by Gasman 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
So what? no big deal. Men tend to look at porn all the time, and it should not freak you out, leave him to his private fantasy, it's common and unless it becomes a hard core addiction, do not make it a huge issue, and go watch it with him.
2007-02-13 17:10:31 · answer #7 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
We are visual, its not about the relationship, just expressing desires in a safe manner. Do not worry about it, quite a few men look at porn married or not.
2007-02-13 17:09:57 · answer #8 · answered by trigunmarksman 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
men are drawn to porn, plain and simple- it doesn't matter if they just had sex- they still love porn. it's really not a big deal- wouldn't you rather him look and not touch? it's innocent, I'm sure. don't be offended. my fiance has lots of porn on his computer- sometimes we have fun with it. you could too.
2007-02-13 17:11:11 · answer #9 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't make a big deal out of it. Men are more visual than women. You could try mentioning it and possibly watching it with him. Maybe there are things he would like you to do but doesn't know how to mention it.
2007-02-13 17:53:10 · answer #10 · answered by answergirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
porn jis sexually fun...my husband watches porn when I am asleep and I don't care...he is having sex with me
2007-02-13 17:50:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋