how to be so confidence ? does mean i have to be so stuck up?

Question

how to get rid of insecurty, does that mean i have to be cocky ?
or does it mean to NOT care about what people say?

Answer 1

Contrary to popular belief (including mine until recently), 'cocky' people/ 'stuck up' peopleare NOT confident people. More often than not, they are as scared as everyone else but use the 'cockiness' / 'snootiness' as a way of covering this up! The same is true of aggression, although people like this get results with their sharp tongues, it's actually because they're insecure people with the mentality that attack is the best form of defence. i.e. I'll get you before, you get me! As a result, they sometimes overreact to situations that truly confident people would take in their stride!

True confidence means that you generally (not always because we all have bad days) accept yourself for the way you are and feel that you can deal with a particular situation well. e.g. You might feel very confident in posting a question on here because you've done it before, so that you KNOW that you CAN do it, and you can do it without worrying too much (again, we all have bad days) about whether you're doing it in the right way for you. Confidence also means that you're not afraid to take risks in a particular situation. i.e. if you didn't know how to use chatrooms but did know how to do this, you might think to yourself, hmm, I'll try that! Or, you might take the risk of saying, no thanks I don't want a cigarette and sticking to your decision, despite pressure to 'try one' from your mates! It also means that you can do this in a way which 'tells' your mates (by the tone of voice etc) that you mean it, without giving into them or having a right go them because you're so fed up with them going on at you about it! i.e. you have asserted your right to lead your life as you fit, while respecting their right to express their opinions and make requests!

Hope this answer helps!

Answer 2

It means you have to have a strong sense of self. So that means pack your bags and go for a trip...inward. Let yourself know you are intelligent, beautiful and love yourself. I have such a strong sense of self and style, I can come out the house with a brazzier and some ornaments around it and make it look like an actual shirt. I am also able to fall, pick myself up brush my shoulders off and keep moving, because I know I love my self and my life and no matter what happens, I would always want to be me. You start loving yourself and that will get rid of insecurity. U use your intelligence and natural charm and glow and you will become confident. Then when people misstake you for being cocky and start to hate on you... you shine like the sun becaue YOU know how you're trying to act...:>

Answer 3

there is a difference between confidence and cockiness. You can actually look them up in the dictionary to get the literal difference.

But Confidence is just an attitude that you will be successful in whatever you are doing. You can get confidence by maintaining that attitude in doing things that you are naturally good at. To maintain it or achieve greater confidence you have to step outside of your normal routine and try things that you "think" you may not be good at, but approach them with the sense that you are going to give your all and do your best. When you are successful continuously enough and when you fail, you will realize that you have control over your insecurites and you will remain confident.

Cockiness, is arrogance and not always warranted. Confident people almost always back up their confidence and are comfortable with their inabilities (the failures mentioned above). Cocky people brag about all the things that they are good at and avoid the things that they fear so that no one sees them failing. They are fakes; they are insecure.

Answer 4

I don't think that your level of confidence is likely to be affected by the way you present yourself (eg: cocky?) I also think that it'd be difficult to simply decide not to care what people say. It might be more realistic to make a list of the positive and negative things that you think about yourself, that you think others might feel about you, and what, in daily life, makes you focus on those negatives list. Then, think about which things on the negative list are important and maybe, worth changing. Start small--a good support system adds to confidence, too. Remember, all different kids of people have or seem to have confidence, and all of them will face judgement in our society. The question is simply how that person assigns meaning to that criticism, and how personally they take it.

Answer 5

hide your insecurities, show the world your smile, get involved more, dont be afraid to step forward, dont be afraid to put ur hand up and answer in case your answer is wrong, because someone whos not putting their hand up is prolly thinking the same so not only have you put yourself right but you have helped someone else, dont be cocky no one likes a cocky person, but be yourself , have the ability to laugh at yourself along with others and you will find the laughter is no longer directed at you but is in harmony with you, if you slip and fall in public dont think ur a slap head but look around you and laugh heartily to show your not hurt those around you will laugh with you, and tomorrow it will be forgotten until someone else does the same, everything you do or say in your life has been done and said before and will be done and said again, so do not be shy about it, the real insecure ppl are the ones who harp on about something they know makes you cringe , but they only do it to stop ppl noticing their meaningless little lives, you are you so be you, one day you will be dead and you wont be able to be you no more, everyone will forget you unless you have done something to remember you by, do not be afraid do not be shy, everyone despite their age color or religion, was born a child and have had to grow and adapt in the same world you have, so there is not much you can do that they have not come across or will not come across again, so what if u have a cringeworthy moment just laugh it off it will be forgotten quicker (i could write a book on my cringeworthies, mostr happened while i was really shy, but now i am not ashamed to be me i am proud of myself and my family and i will stand up and speak anywhere), you need to care about people but a lot of what ppl SAY is absolute shat so there is no need to care about that, you know what you think and what you would say that is all that matters

Answer 6

qI worry too about silly things, and have problems with my own self confidence.I see some people that are quite 'cocky' but they are not what I wish I could be like, but to see someone with enough confidence to go into a cafe, order a drink and sit down, and be quite happy with themselves and their surroundings, is what I would love to be able to do, but I can't. I am interested to know why you asked that question, do you suffer from a lack of confidence??

Answer 7

Confidence comes with accomplishment. If you are feeling insecure, try to find some things you are good at and go out and work hard at them. You will begin succeeding at things, and become accomplished. Then little judgments from other people will just brush off your shoulders. (People will always say things, no matter what do, say or look like, and no matter how much older you get. Usually it is a sign of THEIR insecurity)

Answer 8

Confidence is basically feeling free to get on with what you want to do in life and thinking positive. Highly confident people still get angry,worried,upset ect they just deal with it in a postive manner,also confident people are pleasant to be around because they they are happy to be themselves and dont have to put on a "fake outer shell" in order to be liked. You cant be confident if you are unpleasant to be around,society tends to get confidence mixed up with arrogance.

Answer 9

i used to be the shyest person ever. now people can't believe how confident i am. you just have to be nice to people, know yourself and stay true to that, then no one can have a problem with you! love the person you are and love everyone else too (lol, within reason) thats the secret to confidence! if no one can have a problem you have nothing to be worried about!

Answer 10

I think the cocky people have more insecurities than the more timid ones. they just try and hide it while the nicer guys are more down to eath and tru to themselves!