Long story short: My ex & I had a rocky relationship from the beginning. We fueded about an unplanned pregancy for months. He "claimed" he had gotten married overseas when he left lat summer for 2 months. He told me in an odd way two weeks before he left. We had came over so we could spend some "time" together & he told me he was getting married. It didnt seem believable, but I kicked him out of my house.He came back, we argued more about it & he said that he was married now. I was heartbroken for about 6 months, but I picked up the pieces and got myself together. I didnt work before & I drank a lot. I quit drinking & smoking cigs,I have a great job, I changed my attitude, and I changed my hairstyle. My ex has been flirting, being playful, & starring at me everytime I see him now. His co-workers & friends told me that he really wasnt married & that he told me that to hurt me & he wants me back but doesnt know how to talk to me about it. What should I do?
2007-02-13 08:55:57 · 16 answers · asked by Wisdom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I found out I wasnt preganant later. But the fact that he didnt want a baby made me very angry & I felt betrayed so I continued to let him believe that I was just to see how he would treat me. I was basically testing his character. It went too far and we started arguing too much and I feel like saying eh was married was his way out. I shouldnt have lied so I take part of the blame. I would treat him like crap once I got drunk. But I've since did a 360 turn with my behavior and the way I carry myself.
2007-02-13 08:59:19 · update #1
You have changed a lot for the better but has he? That's what you have to look at. If he's still the same guy, just flirting with you, he's going to do the same things over again. I would proceed with caution. Good luck.
2007-02-13 08:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by flinch 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep this in mind, the troubles you had, you will still have if you two get back together. Sounds like your MUCH better off without him. You noted something about an unplanned pregancy, did you have this child? If you did, you ned to get along for the childs sake, but DO NOT get into this thinking that ALL will be perfect NOTHING is perfect I know! Just think where you are now and how things are now ... then compair them to WHAT YOU WERE AND WHAT YOU DID! Just a thought, hope it helps.
2007-02-13 17:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by PSYCHO DAISY MAE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice anyone ever gave me in this situation is that you broke up once so it wasnt right and now you have a good life going so why backtrack to something that might not be good for you. Keep moving on with the great life you have and a wonderful man will be there soon enough. You dont need a liar in your life to drag you down.
2007-02-13 17:02:09 · answer #3 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is full of games....a real man wont lie about getting married to hurt you..especially letting it linger that long...and while you are pregnant..come on.and as a woman you shouldn't let someone treat you this way. you teach people how to treat you...
He sounds like a loser, a little kid in a mans body and I am sure you can do better than that. The last thing you need to change is your prospective on this guy. Find a man that you won't have to raise.....
2007-02-13 17:03:20 · answer #4 · answered by cherokee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did all these good things for yourself, became a better version of you for yourself and he comes back into your life. Why would you even consider going back to him? It was bad then - it would just be the same thing. NEVER GO BACKWARDS !!! You got passed all the bad and you came out ahead. Don't let him pull you down. You will find the person you deserve.
2007-02-13 17:11:42 · answer #5 · answered by Babycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what should you do? let's see, it was rocky from the beginning.....you fought about an unplanned pregnancy for months.....you argued ....he got married or said he was married to HURT you......
without him....you quit drinking and smoking, changed your attitude, got a good job....
ummmmmm.....read this over and over until you realize that without him you are in a much better place
2007-02-13 17:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go forward in life ,not backwards..ignore him and realize that he was a part of your life that is in your past.
You have changed and deserve better than to be treated so badly by him,don't make the same mistake twice.
2007-02-13 17:01:19 · answer #7 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy? If I were you, I wouldn't give him a chance to get near me. He hurt your feelings and even disrespect you. There are lots of nice guys around and don't waste your time to this jerk! Look forward to your new future and good luck.
2007-02-13 17:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by lara23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line is if was meant to be, it would be. I don't blame you for being upset that he abandoned you in your great time of need, the fatc is you will always be thinking that if you were with him again.
2007-02-13 17:10:07 · answer #9 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't take him back if he lied about being married he'll lie about seeing other women he think's it's funny what he lied about if you love some one you won't lie
2007-02-13 17:01:18 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋