It's the annerversary of my mums death on the 17th February, it will be 7 years since she died. I have been trying to think of a special way i can make a tribute to her as she has no grave her ashes were scattered in the garden of rest miles away and i'm not sure where as i never saw the burial, and i was only 11 yrs old when she died so i didnt have much understanding but now i just wanna make a nice tribute to her even tho i cant go to her final resting place as no one knows where it is????? Can someone give me some ideas?????
2007-02-13 08:44:19 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She mean't the world to me as she was the only parent i knew growing up till she died. I dont have a garden but i know she liked roses.....
2007-02-13 08:54:40 · update #1
All the Photos went missing after she died because my uncle took them as he loved her so all i have is one side view photo of her. But everyone says i look and am just like her...
2007-02-13 08:56:36 · update #2
plant a tree in your garden and visit her there she will be right there with you im sure
2007-02-13 08:46:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mum died just over a year ago and was cremated. We scattered her ashes in the sea where we grew up so although they are not there any more , I still go on special occassions and throw flowers into the sea. Its symbolic as shes not really there anyway. Your mums spirit is in heaven and this occassion is for you to pay respect aqnd remember the good times,it shouldnt matter tht you dont know the exact place.I hope you find comfort whatever you decide to do.
2007-02-13 16:57:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a garden then plant a rose bush..maybe you can find one named after her? Build a little rockery and a littl fountain etc...doesn't have to be big.....If no garden make a portable one....like a chinese garden...using a large seedling tray fill it with 4 sections of different stones (small ones) or sand(s) you may need a divider.....get a small rake and in each section rake in different directions. Buy small Chinese style ornaments like a pagoda from Aquarium shops....mini bonsai tree's and if you are handy make a wooden surround for the whole lot. Place it in a sunny spot and when you feel the need to be with mum...go do her garden and remember!!!
2007-02-13 16:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by Confuzzled 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a garden? Would you be able to plant something for her? Then have a little ceremony in your garden.
If not, why not go to a place she liked and take some flowers to leave there?
My dad also died 7 years ago. February..but I was a lot older. I understand your need to do this.
Best wishes.
2007-02-13 16:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how u feel hun. my mum died just over 8 years ago. it did take a lot of time getting over it. im really not sure if u ever get over this loss tho.
i think u should do something for yourself in ur situation. look out an old photo of ur mum, one where she`s happy and smiling, and make a nice frame for it. maybe write her name and date of birth on it, kind of like ur own personal tomb-stone for her. that way u dont have to go anywhere to visit, to speak to her. u can have her with u all the time.
just a suggestion x x x
2007-02-13 16:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by bonbon24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put some 'memories' of her, photo's, poem, some written thoughts, anything that reminds you of her into a tin box and bury the box somewhere, like under a new plant or tree in your garden or in a large plant pot with a shrub in, that way you can take it with you if you ever move. Hope you find comfort in whatever you decide to do.
2007-02-13 16:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by madmynx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plant a tree or a bush. Roses are often quite apt as there are many different types so you may find one with your mothers name, or a name that would mean something to the both of you or in a colour that she would like. I hope this helps xXx
2007-02-13 16:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by bamba_982 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need to go any where to pay tribute to your mum
you can simply pay tribute by remembering her
you can also get a framed picture of her and light a candle and just talk to her tell her how you feel and what you been doing anything you ever wanted to say and couldn't....... and you can do it any time you want to
i always do that for my uncle i tell him everythin and if i got a problem i'll sit in a quite room and tell him everythin
2007-02-13 17:08:22 · answer #8 · answered by nat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plant several trees somewhere public you can visit easily, if you plant in your garden, the proplem is if you ever move the new occupants may not like it !!!!!
cherry trees look nice in the in the summer, check these people out or contact your local conservation group
www.woodland-trust.org.uk
good luck & peace be with you
2007-02-13 16:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by R I P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it hurts. but my nephew has it also hard his little girl never goes to school and he not to work on this day 14Feb cause his wife and her mommy was buried today and that's why I'm not as fond of this day and it hurts cause soon she'll be all grown up and never care about V-day. why should it hurt so when we loose a loved you. she was 3 years when her mommy died and she is 13 now and still she wants her mom to come back.
good luck babes
2007-02-14 04:18:55 · answer #10 · answered by Ford's Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a small place of remembrance in your garden, planting flowers or plants that she liked.
2007-02-13 16:50:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋