Women only please! miscarriage...blighted ovum any one know about this ?

Question

I was pregnant.I had spotting & mild pain. I was nervous about being pregnant again I have 2 other children 7 & 14 & my divorce wasnt final.(Separated 3 yrs) but happy since I wanted a baby. My fiance & I picked names after friends & fam. told us spotting was normal.We were happy. At Dr.'s appt. I took a urine preg. test& Dr did a vaginal exam told me I was a little small & ordered an ultra sound. After the ultrasound there was a problem and sent me to my Dr they didnt find a fetus and the pregnancy sac was bleeding dark brown. I had 3 options wait for my body to miscarry naturally, take abortion pill to induce the miscarriage immediately or have surgery to remove the sac. My boyfriend thinks I chose to have an abortion & does not believe me. He has spoken to ex girlfriend, his brothers wife, his best friend(female) & another girl whose aunt is in the medical field who is saying what I told him is untrue. I'm taking him to Dr & getting records for him but this hurts any advice ..tired

Answer 1

First of all, just based on what you've said, you sound like you'd be better off without this guy. He's going to his ex for advice? Seriously, you can do better.

That said, take a look at misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com You may have a blighted ovum but they are commonly misdiagnosed too and many women do not see the baby until 8 to 10 weeks. Because of my tilted uterus, one baby appeared at 8 1/2 weeks and the other at 9 weeks and this is somewhat common.

Best of luck to you. Don't get pressured into a D&C. There are plenty of studies that show natural miscarriage is just as safe if not safer than a surgical procedure just so long as you keep an eye out for signs of infection (i.e. foul discharge, fever, etc...). So this just means you do not need to be rushed into anything.

(((hugs)))

Answer 2

I don't believe you should be able to force an abortion. That's punishing a child that had nothing to do with the act except coming into existence. What the doctor and woman did was criminal. It should be prosecuted. People only have rights as long as they are not abusing those rights to the hurt of someone else. People only have rights as long as it is not inconvenient for the general population. That's why my property can be taken through due process if it is in the way of "progress". That's why I cannot go around yelling "FIRE" in public places. If you don't want children, you are still clear. You don't have to raise this child. This child would likely become a ward of the state or local government. Abortion should not be a matter of convenience. Theft is wrong. Two wrongs do not make a right. In some cases, we have to live with what comes to us. It rains upon both the good and the bad. That's life. Life isn't always fair. Something has to die for the lion to eat. Sometimes, when you are caught between a rock and a hard place, you just live or die with the consequences. Choice is nice when we have it. Thieves rarely care about the victim.

Answer 3

Wow...sounds like he's not worth your time. My first pregnancy ended in a blighted ovum. The sperm and egg have met, formed a sac but the embryo hasn't grown. I too was given 2 options...I would either wait for it to miscarry on its own, or have a d&c to have it cleaned out. Google a blighted ovum online and get teh information for him. If he doesn't believe you...then pack his bags.

Answer 4

Sorry about your boyfriend, his brother's wife, his best friend (female), and another girl all being fairly stupid.

I'm not sure what else you can do beyond pointing out how prevalent miscarriage is, and eventually pitch medical records at them _and then stop talking to them entirely_. I notice you first called him a 'fiancé,' and then a 'boyfriend.' I'd downgrade him even further.

I had one, and would've said horrid things to anybody so absurd about it. Good luck.

Answer 5

I agree with what Kmennie said. He'd have an awful lot of sucking up to do for me to even consider taking him back! Not much of a relationship if he does not trust you to be honest!