how can I tell her how I feel about my friendship?

Question

We have been friends since 98 and now she's a stay home mom. Since she has money issues, she started to sell cosmetics. She started to pressure me to bring my friends to her party. I brought 2 friends and I helped her by buying some cosmetics (she didn't even gave me a discount). Then she talked smack about my friends cause they didn't return her call(they didn't want to feel pressure to host a party). Last month she invited me to another party to make purses. I didn't want to go cause I didn't have $$. I told her that I wasn't going to the party, she said that she had dropped alot of money on food to cater this party, half of her guests canceled at the last minute and then she hung up the phone on my face. It has been over two weeks & she hasn’t called me back. I called last Friday, and she was at the gym, and didn't return my call. I don't know what’s next.

She has a history of manipulating other to get what she wants. She gets upset, yell at the person, uses strong words, and then she gets what she wants. When I told her that I didn't want to go to her party, she accused me that I don't spend time with her anymore, that I keep doing "all other activities" with my other friends instead of her. I told her that I could spend time in other day, but she seemed to not care. I feel like she's jealous that I can do stuff and that now she can't do more cause of her baby and lack of $$$. I feel like she wanted me to come to her party cause the more $$$ people spend in these parties, the more she gets from hosting the parties. The bottom line is that she can be a great person when she wants to, but she can also be very materialistic, judgmental, shallow, and envious. I’m not here to change her, but her behavior is pushing me away. She talks bad about her other friends and I feel like she talks bad about me too behind my back.

I’m not here to change her, but her behavior is pushing me away. She talks bad about her other friends and I feel like she talks bad about me too behind my back. I don't like that, but I don't know how I can address what I see to her.

Answer 1

She has problems because she is a nasty person. When she understands and changes, her problems will go away. Her problems aren't your responsibility. Tell her to be nicer to you if you are going to say anything at all.

Answer 2

Don't cover your emotions, earlier than it is too past due! Pick an correct time and asks to talk to him - inform him you treasure the friendship, might find it irresistible to be greater BUT you felt that it is fading. Asks him does he felt the equal (fading away and emotions for you). From the solutions, you can uncover the matters that you simply have got to do - that there is not anything unsuitable within the first situation (you fear an excessive amount of), probably he needs it that approach (to not be too near) or probably he used to be no longer his traditional self of past due (anything's bothering him and so forth). Good success.

Answer 3

I think it's better to just become too busy, and stop dealing with her. She's hardly a friend. I don't know why you choose to call and pursue a friendship with this woman. Move on.