Well, here's the story me and my current boyfriend broke up four months ago and i was so heart broken that the first guy that asked me to marry him i did. well, that didnt work out and now i'm back with the same guys, but also found out i'm pregnant and it might not be his depending on the due date and i'm scared he will leave me if it isnt his even if i conceived the baby before we got back together. what should i do?
2007-02-13 08:17:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The best thing for the child is to have a two parent family. Consider putting him/her up for adoption.
Or just be upfron and honest, you never know, he might be willing to accept this child as his own if it is not his.
Next time use protection so you will not have this kind of drama in your life. You sound like a young lady with a whole life ahead of her....adoption may be the best answer.
2007-02-13 08:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by Angela W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT lie to him. My brother stayed with his woman when she told him the truth. It wasn't his either but the next one was! I've been in your shoes myself and I did NOT lie. I'm glad I told the truth! However, I ended up leaving him 3 years later due to domestic violence. (my baby wasn't his, good thing I didn't lie) There is always abortion if your not too far along. Hate to say it, I choose life but it's a womans right. Sounds like your lie is messed up. Not a good place for a baby. Get counseling no matter what you chose. I wish I had gotten therapy right away! you'll make the same mistakes over and over...jumping from one man to another. I was pathetic, not anymore. I wish you the very best! Good luck!
2007-02-13 08:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by HeavenlyAngel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were broke up for 4 months and took an engagement proposal from the first guy you met???
Ack!
Well what are your dates? How far along are you? When was your last menstrual cycle, and how long are your cycles usually? We can probibly help you figure out when you concieved using these numbers. Don't go by the doc's first dates either, have him confirm them with the ultrasound.
2007-02-13 08:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by Gig 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty really is the best policy. The truth will have to come out sooner or later. I know personally, I would rather be hurt by the truth in the first place than to be hurt with a lie and then learn the hurtful truth as well. If he loves you he will understand. I mean, you were marired to the guy. Do you think he doesn't know you slept with him?
2007-02-13 08:26:42 · answer #4 · answered by SKD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the truth and hope for the best, in the end if you lie to this man or men, it will come back to haunt you and if you don't let this guy have the life he's entitled to and then he finds out that he's not the babys father in like 15 years, it'll hurt you more then if you don't play it out now. I know it's tough but that's the life you have gotten yourself into, just play it out, you'll find happiness at the end of the road. good luck.
2007-02-13 08:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the baby and then get a paternity test. They are usually free and the court will probably make you anyways so someone can claim him. I would try to tell your boyfriend first, and let him know how very much you care about him, and the baby. This baby deserved to be brought into this world into a loving mothers arms, and it soundslike he/she already has that. the fathers arms will just have to come in time. Good luck to you! God bless.
2007-02-13 08:23:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HONESTY. you need to be honest with the guy. Have a long talk with him and tell him how you feel. It is possible that once you get further along, you can have a DNA test done. It is best to find out as quickly as possible. If it is hard on you though, it will be hard on that baby. You need to do whatever you can to protect that sweet, innocent baby that is growing inside of you. Stress isn't helping you nor is it helping your baby. just have a long talk with the man that you are with and just be honest
2007-02-13 08:22:51 · answer #7 · answered by tweety 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
in case you mom grew to become into incredibly a "good roman catholic" she does no longer help killing an harmless existence. Abortion is between the main issues Catholics are against. So...your mom and father are being very hypocritical. this occasion handed off to a kinfolk VERY on the factor of ours with their daughter...who grew to become into additionally 15. The boyfriend mentioned the comparable difficulty yours is announcing now. The kinfolk grew to become into very good Catholic and extremely tight laced. They freaked out, yet supported her. They allowed her to offer the infant and supported her in the process the being pregnant. the infant grew to become into post for adoption. They did an open adoption. the girl visits the infant and has a relationship with him, however the infant lives with the adoptive mom and father. i'd advise this selection for you. i'd advise which you're taking a seat along with your mom and father back. i'm specific they are in marvel amazing now. Oh and drop the boyfriend... intercourse is a in charge selection that 2 human beings have mutually- understanding the skill outcomes. you do no longer p.c. to be with somebody who won't assist you and the existence you're making mutually. amazing now you have a existence becoming interior you. in case you permit individuals dictate what you do along with your physique and YOUR infant you be haunted via this selection. a chum of mine from college is haunted via her abortion that her mom and father and then boyfriend MADE her have. you're six weeks in.... the "abortion pill" is used the day after unprotected intercourse. Your infant already has arm and leg buds and its heart is maximum probable beating already. in case your mom and father won't pay attention, locate an person which will. there are a number of ingredients available. uncertain the place you're from yet there's a help service in RI for pregnant women people who choose suggestion which you would be able to call and that they'd direct you to somebody on your section: 401-625-5929.
2016-10-02 02:17:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you should do is call the Maury Show. They are always looking to help people in your situation. Then you could call the Jerry Springer show. I am sure you could get on one of those shows.
2007-02-13 08:29:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the baby and if you don't want to take care of it put it up for adoption because they and you will love the baby no matter whose it is.
2007-02-13 08:21:37 · answer #10 · answered by Ima Stressed Out 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋