I invited my friend and her son over for a girls night and she said shes bringing her bf. I told her its just for girls and babies and that I would rather her come by herself. And she said well maybe I wont bring him, well she says that all the time and brings him anyway. I have such a problem with him because when he comes over with her they get into physical fights and knock over furniture every time! They are like animals! I really want her to come but not her man, what am I supposed to do if he shows up? How can I keep her from getting mad at me for not allowing him in my home?
2007-02-13 08:13:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
What is wrong with her?
Tell her plainly that if she intends to bring him, that she is not invited.
If/when she does show up with him, don't open the door.
2007-02-13 08:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by Slimslimmer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your home, you make the rules but by making them you have to stick to them. If you invite her tell her no BF and if she comes and brings him along don't answer the door to them, when she calls and asks why you didn't let them in say you said NO BF! Some people don't take others serious and they have to learn the hard way what NO! means.
2007-02-13 16:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by sassywv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
break off with her totally ; ive been thru this; an abuser like him gives her no choice he comes if he says so and you wind up another victim get out of the way; the way i put it to the woman I knew is "Mary, if he comes to my door, I call 911. I dont want to know you" that is as plain as I can say it
2007-02-13 16:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your only choice is to stop inviting her at all, as long as the possibility exists that she'll bring him.
2007-02-13 16:17:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he abuses her in your presence, call the police immediately. Her son should not be exposed to that. Your friend may be afraid to tell her boyfriend he is not welcome in your home. If he shows up, don't let him in. If he insists, call the police.
2007-02-13 16:18:52 · answer #5 · answered by Green Alien Chick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to be assertive with both of them, but the violence needs to stop. Suggest some counseling for them.
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2007-02-14 01:16:02 · answer #6 · answered by Silver Fox 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Find some new friends.
2007-02-13 16:17:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her just like you told us.
I mean I wouldn't want WWE in my living room either.
2007-02-13 16:17:22 · answer #8 · answered by Boo8081 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lol@animals. Just talk to her woman to woman and friends to friends and tell her how you really feel.
2007-02-13 16:17:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You must be open with her and tell her to solve her abuse problem . That has to be done first and foremost.
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2007-02-14 00:30:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋