is my dad cheating on my mom?

Question

My dad only sees my mom for about 1 hr everyday! And yesterdah he started to go to work early! Now he only sees my mom for about 30 min! He says he goes there to visit with his "friends"! Then today i was looking through his cell fone and found 2 numbers that i didnt look fimilar! I am scared for my mom! I have always suppested that he was cheating ever since i knew what cheating was!!

Answer 1

I'm surprised so many people are being rude to you! I bet this is pretty traumatic for you. Your part of the family, of course it's your business. You are not dumb, you can figure things out. Your feelings count too.

I would approach your mom. Maybe she suspects something too, and it could be helpful if she knew about those numbers you found. Or, maybe she knows and has her reasons you aren't aware of, or perhaps your father is just really busy taking care of his family and working hard. In either case, it would be nice to have some knowledge of your situation, because that can be stressful.

If you don't get anywhere with your mom, just know that you will not live like you are living now forever and when it comes time to have your own family, you are in charge of your decisions, and can make better choices. Just take what is happening now to you as a good lesson of the good things to do, and the bad things not to do.

Answer 2

I don't know if your dad is cheating, but it does sound like he is a workaholic at the very least. You and your mom must be very lonely for him.
I don't know how old you are, but if are an adult, I have no idea how you are going to keep this to yourself and not have it boil out and over. I think your best bet would be to wait and then calmly ask your dad about it (if you ever see him) or, even call the numbers and see who is on the other line.. it might be chinese take out for all you know! If it proves to be another woman (or anything like that) the best thing to do is to calmly let your dad know and tell him that he has a week or so to tell your mom before you will have to tell her yourself.
If you are not an adult (teenager, adolescent, child) , I also have no idea how you could possibly contain this. If your dad is approachable, I would either go ahead and talk to your dad about your feelings without revealing that you looked on his cell phone. Let him know that you are not getting enough time with him as a family and that you would like to change that. If you continue to have the gut feeling that something is going on, then you might want to go ahead and talk to him. Your mom may be well aware of his possible activities and is saying and doing nothing for the sake of peace in your home ( or for the sake of the financial stability of the situation).... though emotionally, with or without an affair, I am sure she is very lonely.
I don't think you should say anything to your mom without talking to your dad first, though.
Good luck, I really feel sorry for you. Both of my parents had affairs when I was a teenager, and I know how dificult it is to be in that situation. - dd

Answer 3

There is nothing you can do about this situation. Your mother knows her situation better than you do. You should give them the privacy you would wish for yourself which means not checking cell phone numbers. You do not want to be in a position where you may "force" decisions to be made and perhaps later feel guilt for having done so. I understand that it is scarey for a child or even an older child when they think their parents' marriage is unstable and might end in divorce. Do you have a wise adult to talk with that you can be certain will keep secret the concerns you share with them? If you do, this will help reduce the stress you are feeling. Involve yourself in activities at school or in hobbies that you can enjoy.

Answer 4

It's not your problem princess but tell your dad that if you can figure it out.... How much of the house does he want to live without when mom figures it out? Or don't Better yet say "dad why aren't you around more often do you really have to go talk to friends in the morning when I can be talking to you instead. and make that morning time a special time for just you and your dad to talk about news and current event maybe even at the dining table while reading the paper and listening to the TV. try it

Answer 5

Well..... I've been there. I'm not sure how old you are but it's never easy to: 1) suspect your father of doing such a thing and 2) find out for sure that is actually cheating.
I was an adult and away at college when I first suspected my dad of cheating. In fact, my mother and I talked about it. Actually, I think we even joked about it because neither of us really wanted to face the likelihood. During one visit home, I was the one to find out the truth, totally by accident - never mind the details - and it devastated me to know once and for all. I couldn't tell my mom, so I told my brother who I think told my dad, who in turn, told my mom. My mom was hurt that i didn't tell her but I didn't feel it was my responsibility to tell her. It was my dad's. But I was there to comfort her in the aftermath and I think that's all that you can really do. I felt helpless and angry for being put in that position but it really is between your mother and father. If it turns out that your father is cheating, you'll be feeling some very strong feelings for a while to come.
In my case, my dad was a crappy husband but a good, supportive father (moral role model he wasn't, but I've never wanted or needed for anything) who sacrificed a lot while I was growing up to provide me with a warm and stable home. It took me a year or two to get past my anger and disappointment and just realize that.
In a nutshell, just be there for your mom when the 'you know what' hits the fan and try not to wallow in the inevitable anger. Good luck to you and your family.

Answer 6

i love the reply thqt expresses that all of us do undesirable issues. that is so real, we are all sinners and proceed to do undesirable and selfish issues. this does no longer make the wear and tear pass away, and easily announcing that he must be forgiven does no longer make your heart gush with forgiveness. yet the actuality is, you've each and every precise to be indignant and also you've each and every precise to withhold forgiveness because the international sees it. I advise, it isn't sufficient that your Dad cheated on your mom... you also sense cheated, precise? Justified anger and justified harm will be as undesirable as unjustified harm and anger, even per chance worse because there is no set off mechanism that ought to signal you to understand even as , "sufficient is sufficient." Does this make sense? actuality is forgiveness is this style of blessing to the single being forgiven and to the single doing the forgiving. Jesus stated in what we call "The Lord's Prayer, (12) And forgive us our expenses, as we actually have forgiven our borrowers. (13) And lead us no longer into temptation, yet provide us from the evil one. Do you spot the advantages in this prayer, or a minimum of the conventional for forgving and forgiveness. that is, we are asking God to forgive us interior a similar way that we forgive. So in a be conscious, through withholding forgiveness, it truly is using you loopy, "figuratively." (Your no longer going loopy....) in view that i do not recognize, indexed below are some questions that would nicely be solid to understand. what's the placement of your Dad on the on the spot..., nonetheless in the affair? in search of forgiveness from you/ from mom? nonetheless in Sin? How is you mom... bitter? Forgiving? be conscious: this guidance would also be useful for you mom. Bitterness in trouble-free words festers and grows. it is the devils stronghold..., it truly is gripping. Prayer and forgiveness releases this stronghold. I pray this helps, it truly is a heart situation. it truly is superb how one persons sin continually spills over and motives a lot havoc. real heart felt forgiveness through Christ is the in trouble-free words remedy. A prayer has been despatched ahead for you, your mom and your Dad. advantages! God cares!!!

Answer 7

sometimes couples are just really busy, when i was doing overtime alot to get more money in to fix the car it was hell, hubs and i hardly saw each other for a bit. Perhaps it's something like that? making more money for a trip or whatever. AND not many of us can chose our own hours, my boss tells me when i start, it's not a matter of wanting to leave the house early when you have a store or business to open.

Answer 8

Yes you are not stupid. You don't have to go following anybody,that'll make things worse. Just talk to your dad about it and get it into the open. Hopefully his guilty conscience takes over and he makes the decision to leave or end this. It's not going to be easy for you or anyone but try and be there for your mom, she'll need it. But be sure to talk first, with the hope that he is just busy, but your gut feeling is usually right. I feel for you and I've been there.

Answer 9

This is something that you need to let them work out. Unfortunately many parents dont think about how the kids in the family feel about the situation. If you need to ask your mom how things are going, and tell that you have been wondering why things seem so strange. Maybe she can help you to understand their relationship better. Good luck sweetie.

Answer 10

Dont even pay any attention to this. That is your moms prob. let her handle it. I know it is hard cause you dont want to see your mom hurt. I would probably be doing the same thing but she should be the one going through his phone and being the detective. If you really want to find out what he is doing follow him or tell your mom 2. actually if your mom doesnt want to then you do it. I know its not your prob but you want to find out right.........