my brother is 33 yearsold still in university dosent go to classes skips to go out partying with his friends and dosent do his home work isint it about time i tell him look dude u need to get ur self figured out he has failed so many programs and all he dose keeps on takieng them to saty in school
2007-02-13 07:54:44 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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If it was my brother, I would tell him that although he has been able to take many, many courses, it will end. Just because he doesn't see how it will end, doesn't mean that it won't.
To complete this major step, to earn a degree or two, will make the rest of his life bearable. It will make his children's lives bearable.
To have the opportunity to attend college, and complete college, is a gift. He is squandering the gift. There isn't much time left by the sounds of it, for him to get his act together, to take this gift seriously, and to get at least this one degree.
If he doesn't, he will regret it for the rest of his life. Tell him H S told him so, and H S knows. =)
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2007-02-13 08:02:48 · answer #1 · answered by H. Scot 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By all means YES!!!
My husband of 10 years is 33 and a real jerk b/c he is still partying HARD and stays gone for days at a time and we have 3 GIRLS ages 2, 6 & 10...
I won't even go into detail how wrong he has done his wife, but what it all boils down to is being irresponsible.
His BROTHERS see this and instead of just getting it out (Who cares if he hates u for a few days, he's your bro and he will forgive u in time), I often get the slack on him and when I tell him what his brothers and family say, he dismisses it and does not take it to heart.
So, Yes, please tell your brother to get his sh*t together, b/c his circle of friends certainly won't, all they will do is justify it!
In my case, my husband's little brother who is 28, married with 3 kids and great life, just lets me know how much my husband's priorities suck and I hate hearing about it, I mean I am his wife and I can't get through!
I know that if one of my 3 sisters were being out of line, I would confront them and if they chose to igmore me, I would just shut my door until they walk in responsible. I have been there with my own sisters and it DID work.
Good Luck, it's hard but tough love is OKAY!
2007-02-13 16:05:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your brother and you love him, that's why you think about his problem and try to help him but scared to do so. You can tell him and ask your parents too to have a word with him. Don't be harsh though. Just tell him how much you care and how much it bothers you to see him failing. You want the best of him and this is not the best of him. Ask him if he has problems and if there's a way you can help. If he yells at you and tells you to stop mingling into his life, then you tell him you're sorry and that you're trying to help. And stay out. He's 33 and he should know better.
2007-02-13 16:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by Natalie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Face it, your brother is a looser. At 30 years old he doesn't need to be hand held. He'll mostly likely be that unemployed, random Christmas visitor that is super cool with the kids but asks you to borrow money cause he's short on cab fair every year, kinda guys. Sorry to be so blunt but I know enough of these guys and the best thing I ever did was stop lending them money.
2007-02-13 15:59:47 · answer #4 · answered by GoodWillHunt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Geez.. i told my brother that when he was 24. I basically told him that he was a lazy bum that people in the movies make fun off cause he will end up living with mum and dad forever.. that seemed to work.. a year later he got a better job and moved out..
2007-02-13 16:02:48 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should definitely tell your brother to get a life, he needs a future and he might actually not have one, he is already too old to be in the university
2007-02-13 15:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by 1234 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that time came a long time ago. Yeah sometimes people just need a swift kick in the butt to get them thinking. And heck he is your brother so if you can't give im advice who can?
2007-02-13 15:58:54 · answer #7 · answered by ribshack 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can try, but, I don't think it will do any good. It doesn't sound like he ever grew up. He's stuck at 18 years old. Whoever is supporting him is not doing him any favors. He needs a huge wake up call.
2007-02-13 16:00:08 · answer #8 · answered by mjm52 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
trust me, you can't change someone who doesn't want to change. Tell him you are worried about the path he is taking, and want to help him turn around. He might get a little defensive, but he's your brother. he'll forgive you.
whatever the outcome, you have to accept that sometimes people are self destructive.
2007-02-13 15:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by YE_ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like Van Wilder to me lol
2007-02-13 16:01:49 · answer #10 · answered by Curtis House 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋