we were together for almost 7 years and now he is saying he deosnt have feelings for me, and he need some time to think if he want to marry me or not. what should i do? should i wait for his answer or should i move on and care less ?
2007-02-13 07:52:38 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Move on. He must have found options other then you that he thinks might be better.
2007-02-13 07:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know this hurt but he doesn't know how to tell you that he wants to date other people. He wants to keep his options open to mess with other females and still have you waiting. But then when you don't want to have anything to do with him, he hurrys to be with you cuz he don't want to see you with anybody but yet he still wants to see other people. DO NOT fall for it! Move on and do it quickly. It happend to me-long term relationship, he cheated on me, lied and wanted to see other people-I didn't want to see him anymore but he kept calling and seeing me, this went on over and over again til I started looking somewhere else and the first girl he met, he married her within a year and the next year after that, they had a baby...We both dated eachother in college for along time (over 4 years) and messed around for 3 more years, no commitment, no ring, no future...I felt like he thought I wasn't good enough. He got his masters and a great job making lots of money and his wife does too. I just have my B.S. and have a regular job.... Now you tell me what's fair....DUMP HIM ASAP!
2007-02-13 08:01:16 · answer #2 · answered by angelic1302 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should move on. you deserve someone better than him.
Just tell him is if marriage is out of the question then just say you want out of the relationship as he is not willing to commited. Cos being a lady, time is of very inportant. Dont have to set a deadline for thinking. Just do it. if he didnt do anything to stopped it from happening. He doesnt love you anymore.
2007-02-13 07:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by wiser 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
move on - if he hasn't proposed in 7 years - he never will. I know one that they were together 7 years - got married and divorced one year later. You deserve someone that wants to commit to you. This guy has no intention of doing that.
2007-02-13 07:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by lifesajoy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave him.
If a man "needs time to consider" marrying someone, he's not in love. A man who really wants to be married practically runs down that aisle - he can't WAIT to call you his wife.
This guy sounds like a great person to get rid of.
2007-02-13 08:01:26 · answer #5 · answered by Guernica 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
marriage is a big step. That's for life. He might be having some issues, but let him resolve it. Give him a reasonable timeline and be confident in yourself. If he says yes, then its for life. the more you pressure him, the more you might make it harder for him to decide. Just take your space and maybe you should think about marriage as well too.
2007-02-13 07:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to check out his other options before committing. Go ahead and start something with someone else but not to serious. As soon as he sees that your happy with someone else and were able to move on he is going to come crawling back and then be ready for the commitment.
2007-02-13 08:02:24 · answer #7 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This doesn't make sense. If he says he doesn't have feelings for you, then why would he even consider marrying you?
Move on.
2007-02-13 07:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by Morty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 01:49:24 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, he's had 7 years to make up his mind.
2007-02-13 07:59:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do NOT wait for his answer. Tell him it's fine and move on. If he contact you within the first 30 days, don't take his call. Let him think he's lost you for his stupid game.
2007-02-13 08:12:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋