hi split with ex 4 weeks ago becuase of an argument at work, she got with me 3 weeks after spliting with her bf who she was with 4 years. I treated my ex like a princess cos of what she had been through with her exs. I bought her gifts flowers, chocolettes etc to make up to her and to show her that i cared for her and id do anything for her. my ex says she likes me alot and has got feelings for me but not enough to go out with me just yet. she says therefore can only give me friendship for now. she says she really likes me.some guy at work also lied to her that am married to mess things up. people at work have been spreading alot of stuff about us causing trouble. and we end up arguing i want to be with her cos i like her to much so i txt her today asking her out and she replied am sorry babe my answer still hasnt changed. so basically she said no to me. i am seeing her tommorow. she has let me down many times what do i do ? please help i cant seem to let her go, its cos i care for her
2007-02-13 07:13:50 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
You want the hard straight line ..?
Its time to let go and move on dude... She has told you that and, as much as we all want to believe in warm and fuzzy endings, you ALREADY know the answer to this one, don't you?
Sorry.. and good luck...
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2007-02-13 07:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by ca_surveyor 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get back your ex is https://tr.im/WNph1
Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.
Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.
She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!
Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!
2016-07-19 21:15:29 · answer #2 · answered by cody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm! This sounds all too familiar. My fiance went thru the same thing with a woman he was interested in. He spent two years dedicated to this woman in hopes that they would end up together. He treated her better than any of her ex-husbands did. Took her out, bought her gifts, even gave her $1,500 (no strings attached) to pay towards her last divorce. She told him that she was still bruised emotionally from her past experience that she didn't feel ready to enter into another relationship. She told him that when she was ready,if nothing else came up, and the circle turned around, she MIGHT consider getting serious with him. She started to show her true colors when he met me. He realized that she wasn't who he thought she was. Now I am the one getting treated like a queen. I LOVE HIM! Best advice for you....MOVE ON and find someone that will love you back.
2007-02-13 07:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/Qlwgj
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-26 16:36:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you actually go out with her in the first place?
It's just seems that you've dated her for a while treated her well and she's just moved on.
I think that she's way over her ex's and you and is now moving on with her life.
I can understand that you care for her and are finding it hard to let go. If you cared for her you'd let her go, so that she can move on and be happier don't try and trap her just sit back relax and enjoy the single time you have infront of you.
For now go out with the guys, enjoy yourself and have fun without commitment. Once you're over this look for a stable un-work related relationship then see how it goes.
2007-02-13 07:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by misseh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I am sorry this hasn't worked out the way you wanted it to. She has made it clear that she doesn't want a serious relationship with you so if you think anything of her, respect her wishes.
I know it is hard but there is nothing you can do. There is someone out there for you, it just isn't this person at the moment. If you try putting her under any pressure she will end up hating you.
Good luck.
2007-02-13 22:09:41 · answer #6 · answered by LYN W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep been there myself, but believe me your better off letting go rather then continually torturing yourself because that's what your doing.
I know it feels like shes the only one etc, but believe me you WILL MEET someone else. You be be out and about one day and you will suddenly meet someone when you lease expect it who will be just right for you. She is out there somewhere and you will find the right person, but please don't torture yourself by chasing after this girl because she isn't for you..! I know it's easy for me to say but we've all been through it and from experience you will get over her. The sooner you accept that the sooner you can move on and get on with your life.
All the best mate.
2007-02-13 08:02:48 · answer #7 · answered by Roaming free 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're clearly suffocating her. This is no doubt making her feel under pressure to have the same feelings for you.
My advice is to leave her be. Let her have some space and keep your distance. If she misses you she will get in touch and try to sort things out. If she doesn't then it's time to accept that and move on.
You will definitely not win her back my smothering her.....
2007-02-13 09:37:50 · answer #8 · answered by sarahscarah78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that,got the t shirt. Move on and stop making yourself miserable over one woman for fecks sake. Looks like a letter from the problem page of a teenage girls magazine.
2007-02-13 23:30:07 · answer #9 · answered by alan r. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you I know how it feels when you are that in love but it isnt going to happen. I think she has been clear and is trying to let you down gently. Not being horrible but could she have seen the ex before you again? Does sound final, try to move on and enjoy yourself. Good luck with it.
2007-02-13 07:25:27 · answer #10 · answered by babyshambles 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋