I am a married female, 42 yrs old and have always lived as a hetero but also always fantasized about being with women (the feminine type, not the macho type). Anyone else out there feel this way? I don't even know how to go about trying out my feelings, but they seem to be getting stronger the older I get. I don't even know where to go to meet someone with the same desires. Any suggestions?
2007-02-13 07:05:57 · 6 answers · asked by lsloner 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
well i dont think your husband would like you going on trying things with another women. maybe if there was some one willing to do a threesome with you and him. maybe you should have tried it before you were married.
2007-02-13 07:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_treat101 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first off... If hubby dosent know and isnt agreeable to it its just as much cheating as if you boinked his best male friend.
If hes in on it.. Likely its not gonna be much of a problem (guys go figure) In fact he might even find you one (no I'm not kidding LOL)
As for where & how? Thats not really that difficult.. Go to Gay/Lez bars for one or try out several of the swingers websites (which routienly hold get togethers at gay/lesbian bars BTW)
One such site that I used to belong to is below.. good coverage for most of the USA.. and tons of Bi chicks (most of em in fact LOL) both single and married... but be warned.. Swingers VERY much Frown on Cheating (I'd say more so than the average vanilla person actually)
If you go there tell em 'Angel said Hello LOL
http://www.swinglifestyle.com/
2007-02-13 07:18:58 · answer #2 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband, he may be more willing than you realize to let you explore this side of your personality. Let him in on some of your fantasies, be as open as you possibly can and you can figure something out together. It worked for my husband and I, keeping this from him was driving a wedge between us but when i decided to be open our relationship actually improved. After that finding someone is the easy part!
2007-02-13 07:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by crazybubbleblower 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, you should be honest with your husband. He has a right to know if you are going to cheat on him.
Some men would actually be okay with this particular scenario, if he is allowed to watch.
But yes, if you are honest with husband, then go ahead and pursue what makes you happy.
2007-02-13 07:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I bought a pair of dressy shoes for a wedding of my future wife's friend (and his bride). One day he came home to find his wife in bed with another woman. He joined in. My shoes lasted longer than their marriage.
2007-02-13 07:41:13 · answer #5 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a gay bar or outpersonals.com and tell your husband maybe he would like to join.Good luck.
2007-02-13 10:41:41 · answer #6 · answered by C E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋