I am 19 and almost 6 months pregnant and my husband and i are seriously considering a divorce. I am heart broken, and scared to death. please any words of wisedom, or advice to help me get through this........ it hurts so bad, i have never felt a hurt like this before. How do i make it stop hurting... i can't stop crying and i feel so hopeless,lonely, and HORRIBLE all around.
2007-02-13 06:41:49 · 10 answers · asked by NewMommy!!! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Im sure being pregant and in a possible failed relationship seems like the end of the world right now but try to look at the positive side of things you have a wonderful little baby growing in you and that in it self is a great thing. as far as the marriage goes it can be an overwhelming thing for him to so sit down with him and see if that is what is bothering him and let him no everything will come together as the time gets closer. does he have any kids ? I no from experience with kids of my own that theres a lot of things that go through your head Will i be a good dad will i be able to provide for all of us, things like that are very stressful to a guy. Well if you need to talk about anything just email me or if you just want to hear about someone else's problems email me i have a great story about my 13 year relationship thats about to end do to my spouse cheating on me. so i no a little about hurting.
2007-02-13 07:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by John 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very first thing you guys need to do is go to a counselor. You are very young and I can only guess that your husband is young also. You both need to learn how to communicate with each other. If you both feel like you just can't work on it after that, you need to make up you mind that you ARE going to be OK. I went through the same thing after being married for 10 years and 2 children with him. I was down for about 3 months before I decided I wasn't going to let him continue to ruin my life. I made the decision to go on with my life, and it worked. Now nearly 3 years later, I am remarried to a WONDERFUL man. It will all work out, and you WILL make it through this.
2007-02-13 14:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by ladybugg0224 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well most of your feeling of pain is also because you are pregnant,we do fell vulnerable at this stage.sometimes seems like is the end of the world ,but if you are already think about divorce ,why stay in this relationship?you will just get more sad.
Men usually don't understand all the pregnancy process,they just fell love for something that they can see.right now you have to think in this little one that is coming because men come and go but a child is for life,and everything you fell right now you pass to your baby.I know it is scary been 19, pregnant and thinking what to do ,how can you manage by your self.but what about the baby
he didn't ask to be in this situation and you have to be strong to think in his future.May be your husband is also upset because he is scare and it is natural.give some time for yourself and him,calm down,think in your Little one .talk with your husband without play the victims .
2007-02-13 14:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by realistic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a counselor. Preferably a Christian counselor. Look to the local church - counseling will most likely be free & if you are committed to making this marriage work that is the best place to turn. Pray & ask God to give you peace & hope in this seemingly hopeless situation. With God all things are possible. He saved my marriage & gave me hope when I thought there was none. He is real, sister. Let Him help you.
2007-02-13 15:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by ELIZABETH B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what,
Your crying, feeling hopeless, gettting hurt, lonely, horrible are having a very very very bad effect on the baby in you.
Plz for baby's sake, keep yourself happy and smiling. Go away for a while to your parents place may be.
Call the person dearest to you and discuss your problems with him/her, hope u'll find a solution to your problem.
2007-02-13 14:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by Goldman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, im really sorry that ur going through this right now, its hard enough when ur not pregnant then to be going through it while ur pregnant..
I personally think that u and him should go to counseling, because there are alot of things a pregnant couple can be going through that cause alot of problems, but because of your age u dont really understand that at this point, and neither of u know how to cope with it...
does he family know ????? because i know if that was my son walking out on his pregnant wife, id kick his azz real quick and i would every day till he decided to grow up and be a "real" man..
2007-02-13 14:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it will be ok. You need to talk to somone NOW. You sound so sad and depressed. Please call your Mom, Dad, Aunt, Uncle, Priest , Minister- Anyone. There are phone numbers for help locally too.
Your OB/GYN needs to know what is going on in your life too. He or she will be able to make sure that you and the baby are physically and mentally ok.
I know this is rough. But you are strong and you need to stay strong for yourself and the baby.
I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Please call someone close to you, even if they are miles away. They can help you. God Bless.
2007-02-13 14:51:59 · answer #7 · answered by chickemama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will suggest to sit down and talk to him and let him know your marriage and your family is your number 1 priority , don't end thing with stupidity like I did!
I'll pray for you , best wishes
2007-02-13 14:48:14 · answer #8 · answered by T S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the scumbag just married you to get a bit and is now dropping you then he still needs to ensure that his unborn child is taken care of.
2007-02-13 14:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply remember, you must stay healthy not only for yourself but for your child. Your baby needs your support now and in the future.
2007-02-14 09:52:50 · answer #10 · answered by CommonSense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋