Is it possible to be equally attracted to both sexes? If so is there any chance of a monogamous relationship lasting a lifetime and how would that work? Or is that something that a bisexual person accepts they have to forgo?
I ask out of curiosity not discrimination.
2007-02-13 06:32:17 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The way I look at it, is that most people aren't attracted to just one type of person - most guys like small chested girls as well as large breasted girls. I don't doubt a guys ability to be monogamous just because he likes other types of girl - and I don't doubt my ability to be monogamous just because I am bisexual. Yes, I am attracted to both men and women, but I have the ability to control my urges, and it is just part and parcel of being in a long term relationship. My sexuality has never been an issue for me - sadly it does seem to be an issue for many people. The abuse that bisexual people receive is amazing - people automatically assume that we are sex-mad loonies who will sleep with anyone or anything. And the gay rights movement often doesn't want to be associated with us 'greedy' bisexuals.
I wish more people would ask frank and non-judgemental questions like you have done - it gives us the opportunity to give our view. Thank you :)
Also, I don't think most bisexual people are attracted equally to men and women, its swings and roundabouts. I don't tend to think about 'men' and 'women' - I just see people, and sex really isn't a factor in wether I fancy someone or not - if that makes sense? It does in my head!
2007-02-13 06:39:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
It is possible to be equally attracted to both sexes, however most bisexuals tend to lean towards one sex more than the other - this doesn't make them any more or less bisexual, as the definition of bisexuality is an attraction to both sexes (not necessarily equally).
Bisexuals are capable of monogamity. However, like homosexuals and heterosexuals, there are some who don't want to settle down - and indeed choose a lifestyle which suits their own needs.
Basically, it all depends on what the person wants. There are many bisexuals who settle down with one partner, and who forego any casual play with other people.
2007-02-14 06:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. There are tons of people who are truly, really bisexual. As for being equally attracted to both sexes, there are lots of bisexuals who feel that way too, but remember- you don't have to be equally attracted to both in order to be bisexual, you just have to be attracted to each, no matter in what proportion. It can be 50-50, 60-40, 20-80, even 99-1, and you're still bisexual. I know that I have more attraction to men than women, myself, but I still enjoy both.
And yes, there is definitely a possiblity of a monogamous relationship lasting a lifetime. How would that work? The same way it works for straight and gay people- you are head-over-heels crazy for your partner, and everyone else pales in comparison, or you ignore the ones who are tempting, because of your love and dedication to your love. Being bisexual doesn't mean you have to romantically or sexually engage both sexes at the same time. Some will, some feel that they need to do so in order to be complete.
But believe me, there are many, many married, monogamous, happy bisexuals, with equally happy partners. I myself know that I want to be monogamous, even though I'm bisexual. The only way I see it making me different from anyone else is that I have double the potential dating pool!
Hope that helps.
2007-02-13 08:21:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think there's such a thing. Just like straight people, gay and bi people change throughout their lives with regard to what they are into. Example: the type of girl a guy wants when he is 20 might not be the kind of girl he will eventually marry at 35.
As far as monogamy, I think that is possible too. They simply choose a person they are in love with, stay with that person, and are monogamous.
So now you wonder about the other sex--if a bi guy marries a girl, for instance, he may still be attracted to guys. That's just like a straight person. You marry somebody and make a commitment--this doesn't guarantee you will never again be attracted to another person, but you have made your vows and chosen to honor one person. So you do it. Anyone--gay, straight or bi--who makes a commitment is foregoing the "could have been."
2007-02-13 06:39:26 · answer #4 · answered by sarcastro1976 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I believe it is possible to be equally attracted to both sexes. And yes I do believe a monogamous relationship can last a lifetime if you find the right person. I tend to think of it this way. Even if you are in a relationship you will sooner or later be attracted to someone else, think they are hot, or what have you. It doesnt mean you have to act on this response. Make a choice based on love, and I do believe you will find happiness.
2007-02-13 06:37:30 · answer #5 · answered by Tropicalboy 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you can truly be bisexual.
However, it is impossible to be EQUALLY attracted to both sexes. You can like one of the sexes a bit more, or your preferences change with time.
A monogamous relationship lasting a lifetime is entirely possible - there are millions of such relationships around the world.
Some people can unerstand and accept their partners' bisexuality and even use it to enrich their sex life.
One does not necessarily have to cheat on their partner to fulfill their bisexual desires...
2007-02-13 06:42:01 · answer #6 · answered by M 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Who or how many you are attracted to doesn't have anything to do with whether you can manage a monogamous relationship. If you're completely straight, as most people are, does that mean you can never be happily married to one person because others of that sex also turn you on? That's where choice and commitment come in.
2007-02-13 06:42:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure it's possible.
And yes it's equally as possible to have a monogamous relationship with one sex. I've been monogamous for 20 years..but that doesn't mean I don't see attractive people all the time.
2007-02-13 09:39:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is possible and any monogamous relationship, gay, bi or hetero, is by it's very nature monogamous! However many longlasting relationships are not monogamous and still last a lifetime. I don't understand the question.
2007-02-17 00:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by James B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always thought you could be bisexual but recently i have read a few articles on the issue of bisexuality and apparently they are saying after research and whatever that bisexuality does not exist ... if you have feelings for both sexes then essentially you are homosexual ... it's a bit confusing in to understand but it made more sense when i was reading the articles...just do a google search :-)
2007-02-14 09:33:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋