my friend and me have been hanging out alot and he is great wit my kids and he loves them they call him daddy he is married first i am 17 and he is 22 i am friends with his wife and i feel really bad but i love him!!! any advice
2007-02-13 06:30:16 · 15 answers · asked by i needhim7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to him.
2007-02-13 06:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by Leelah 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I bet you feel like smacking the hell out of your kids at times too dont you? But you dont do it, right? Same thing here. It would be wrong to do so. Leave him alone. He is married and you have no right to him. That simple.
Now, if you have a kid at 17, much less more then one kid at 17, you basically have shown that you have few morals or self control. Now would be a good time to get some and realize that your wants and likes wont kill you. You also need to learn that just because you feel something doesnt make it right or correct or moral.
Next, Wit is not a word and sentences have periods, capitol letters and so forth. Stop worrying about your feelings and learn somethings that will make you a better and more worthwhile person. Get your legs under a desk in school or at a job and out of the air/ off the sidewalk with your freind.
Sound harsh. Good. Maybe it will be the prompting to get you to wake up and realize life isnt just about what we like/want or what feels good all the time.
2007-02-13 14:50:10 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, grow the hell up, and find ur "OWN" man.. Have enough respect for yourself and respect for peoples marriage to not come between a husband and wife, and if u were any type of a mother u wouldnt be allowing ur children to call him daddy, he's not their daddy, and he isnt even in the "maybe" category of being their daddy .. and ur just screwing with ur kids minds letting them call him that.. havent they been through enough ?? They have a young , nieve, immature mother, that has no morals or values, they dont have their own daddy in their life on a regular bases, and now u want them to call a man that u love that is already MARRIED to someone else , daddy? Are u that psychologically screwed up??? I realize u want to have a man in ur life, u want someone to share a life with and to be a "daddy" to ur children.. geeze find ur own man and leave this womans man alone.. what kind of role model are u for ur children? right now ur being a pathetic one.. would u appreciate , some 17 year old , immature idiot , messing with ur husband?????? No i doubt that, and why would u want to be with him, if he's even "thinking" of messing around on his wife with u , then what makes u think ur so damn special that he wouldnt do that to u ??? HE WOULD , if he is that low class to do it to his wife, he'd use u , and then do it to u , then what??? u have "children" that get hurt "AGAIN" and lose another father "AGAIN" , little girl u need to grow up, and start thinking about ur kids and stop thinking about urself and for pete sake get on some birth control havent u ruined ur life enough ?????? geeze..
2007-02-13 14:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are your kids calling him Daddy? He is married to someone else...put yourself in this other woman's shoes...would you want someone messing with your guy? Possible making more of it than it is? I think you should move on and try to find someone else. Don't break up a happy home and possible losing your friends and in the long run hurting your children.
2007-02-13 14:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by superstar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him...then you'll make sure that his marriage does not suffer. Sometimes we have to let someone go, if it means the best for the people that we live.
But you have children...you are 17. Why does a man mean more to you than your children? Your children ought to come first, wouldn't you agree?
You have a lot to do with respect to your children. Why not just be friends and focus on your children?
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2007-02-13 14:35:35 · answer #5 · answered by ♠Gotham♠ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a loser.
Stop trying to break up his marriage.
Stop confusing your kids.
Stop hanging around with him except when his wife is present.
Get a life of your own and stop trying to take your friends'.
2007-02-13 14:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by wuxxler 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do in that situation. He is married and you are her friend. Unless you would like to create a war. You don't even know if he has any feelings for you.
2007-02-13 14:32:57 · answer #7 · answered by rain9439 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have zero respect for you and no sympathy what so ever. I am so sick of hearing about people like you that are "in love" with married men!! All you are is a little selfish homewrecker.
2007-02-13 15:27:19 · answer #8 · answered by GIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't confuse your children by allowing them to call every man you know DADDY!!! and at 17 how many dern kids do you have???? that is NOT fair to them at all. Kids need stability. (let me guess...different daddy's hu?)
2007-02-13 14:33:12 · answer #9 · answered by Joannie W 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Get a life hes married, and teach your kids some morals.....
2007-02-13 14:32:44 · answer #10 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Look for someone else. This has disaster written on it for various reasons (he's married, you're underage, to name two), and if it blows up you're going to have a heartbreak and your children are going to lose someone who cares for them.
2007-02-13 14:34:42 · answer #11 · answered by Rossonero NorCal SFECU 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋